How do I talk to my 12yr old daughter about sex?
2006-12-01 08:07:23 · 13 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Her mother and I are divorced so me or my sister will(her aunt)
2006-12-01 09:09:41 · update #1
Just sit down and talk to her. Don't be scared, she probably knows alot more than you think she does. You are her father and you should be comfortable talking to her. Before you do write down what you would like her to hear, don't just blurt it out. Be calm, for we woman know it's hard for you mean to talk to us about things like this. But wouldn't you rather she hear it coming from you than anyone else? It's hard I know, but you can do it! Just sit her down and say honey, I want to talk to you and it's very important. I want you to listen to what I have to say and if you have any questions feel free to ask me. I'm your father and I love you and I just want to beable for us to talk about anything that you have a problem with or anything you'd like to talk about at all. Just begin with that, but don't yell at her, don't make her feel anymore uncomfortable than the two of you will already be. It'll be fine, you can do it.
2006-12-01 08:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by kayren s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. But don't run away from it. Someone has to tell her, and even though it will be weird, you'd rather do it yourself than have someone else tell her.
Be honest. Set up a time to talk when you have plenty of time to explain and answer any questions she may have. Use technical terms, and explain, start to finish, how it happens. Try not to show embarrassment, because that will teach her to be embarrassed by sex. You could even get a book from the library, or go online to find out what you need to know.
Good luck, Dad, and remember that your daughter's lucky to have a dad like you! We need more of you in this world.
2006-12-01 16:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it is going to be hard for her dad to talk to her about it. Does she have a mom? Aunt? Well, if she doesn't, then I guess you'll have to. But don't avoid talking to her about it. If you do, all she will want to do is go out and expiriment with it. When she has family life or whatever they call sex ed. in school, just ask her if she has any questions about it. If she doesn't, then just tell her that if she ever does have any questions about it that she can always come to you and you will be happy to answer them. She will be embarrassed to ask questions, though. So you have to gradually bring up the subject. When you do, ask her what she already does know about sex...and what she doesn't know and what you want her to know, tell her.
2006-12-01 16:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
BE HONEST, my daughter asked at like 6 or 7 so i told her the truth. the real truth not that, "it's something that mommies and daddies do when they're in love..." crap. tell her the pros and cons, tell her that boys are going to tell her anything to get into her pants. take the mystery out of it, so it seems less exciting and more gross than anything. don't threaten (that comes when she starts dating, hehe) also let her know ( really assure her of this!) that if or when she thinks she's going to become active, she needs to talk to you first, so you can go over protection. tell her that when that time comes YOU WILL NOT GET ANGRY if she wants to talk about this with you. if you get pissed she'll never come to you until she's in trouble. I'm sure this is really hard for a guy to have this talk to his daughter. good luck and kudos for being a good parent. if you don't educate her, her peers will...
2006-12-01 16:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by The Key Master 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its MUCH easier 4 a woman 2 tel her dis!!!!If dar is no mum in d picture den mayb an aunt , sister even an older cousin!!!
2006-12-01 16:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a book that you believe to be suitable,and lay it on her bed or dresser.Trust me,dads and "the talk" is never fun for a girl.
2006-12-01 17:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinl that you should let her mom do it because from experince she is going to be very uncomfortable and i think that 12 is to young
2006-12-01 18:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by ~MISS SEXINESS~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a female relative tha is close to her talk to her about sex
2006-12-01 16:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Gwenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that it is natural that u do it every night witth another woman that might be hard to take. Experienced ones start early i did it when i was 14. That will make the boys happy! But baldy might i suggest to sing a lullaby "my humps"
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2006-12-01 16:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by dick testicles 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Let her mother do it. :)
Honestly - she'll be VERY unconfortable taling to you about it.
2006-12-01 16:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by =] -- * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋