2006-12-01 08:02:43 · 16 answers · asked by Rainfall 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Only if the people really DID cause those problems. But even so, they're probably NOT going to fix them. That will be up to you, so try to focus on yourself and what you can do to make things better. If the same people keep causing problems, distance yourself from them! You don't need the grief!
2006-12-01 08:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not a "good" thing to do. You can end up ignoring a lesson learned. Placing the blame is so easy to do. But, it a short cut to logical thinking, and sometimes laying a guilty blame on someone who doesn't deserve it. You have to take control of your own life.
This is complicated by peer pressure: You can say no to certain things 100% if you don't believe it's right or wrong.
The way you were raised, good or abusive, you have the "free will" to change the ways you like or dislike.
Passing the blame onto someone else or something else will most probably always exist... like... "the devil made me do it". How many times have we all heard that!.
2006-12-01 08:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, it's your responsibility to solve your own problems.
You may have allowed other people to control your thinking process and this resulted in a problem for you.
But, we all do that occasionally.
Try to treat each bad incident as a learning experience and vow not to repeat the mistakes which resulted in your problem.
But, by all means, don't blame someone else. You have the ultimate control in your life. Use that control wisely.
2006-12-01 08:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the problems are yours then there is no one to blame. The only time it is acceptable to blame anyone else for your problems is if they are partly to blame for your problems or they have caused them!
2006-12-01 08:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes if they are really the cause of the problem. It is rational to find out if they have any liability in relation to your problem. Obviously, if you are fired from your job for theft it is irratioal to blame anyone but your self. If your neighbour cuts down your favorite tree they are responsible for the problem of damage to your property.It depends on what your problem is.
2006-12-01 08:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by swingoutsister 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually its always better to say its your fault. if you take the blame for something this usually disarms the other person and they will usually move on to see how you can fix it. Of course this is only in business or in minor disagreements. It would obviously be useful to blame an abusive parent or something that you know isn't your fault
2006-12-01 08:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jack L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-14 10:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you do this you will go through life not taking responsibility for yourself and your actions.
It is easy to blame other people for things that happen to you,but in doing this you remain in a childlike state, dependent on those around you to define your future.
Is this what you want for yourself?
2006-12-01 08:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sally E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if it's good, but sometimes problems are beyond a person's control, and not based on anything specific that they did wrong. "sh$t" happens, and learning from mistakes- your own and other people's is a good thing.
2006-12-01 08:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No never!!!
As an adult, every thing you do and every thing that happens to you is your responsibility even if you are a "victim".
If a woman is raped she still needs to take responsibility for not paying attention to what is happening around her or being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Blame is just our juvenile way of not taking responsibility for our part in a situation. and as long as you do not take responsibility for your part, the same thing will happen over, and over.
2006-12-01 08:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by cajohnson667 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋