I'm a girl. 18. And I don't know why I feel like I fall in love with girls. Nothing really sexual or anything usually. But I just have a tendency to love girls more than guys. Theres two girls I know right now, particularly one, she the most beautiful person i've ever seen. She's so kind and nice and I just love everything about her. I kind of wanted to start to sit with her and her group of friends at lunch today but I just didn't feel as comfortable with the whole group because she wasn't there. I mean I'm not obsessed or anything, and I know I could never be with her or anything because but I just felt a little bit like I'm falling in love with her. I mean it's not like I couldn't live without her, I'd be fine, but just in general I just like looking at girls. I find them so pretty. I don't really have sexual feelings, I mean I have had minor sexual feelings toward girls and guys, probably pretty even, maybe slightly more girls. It's wierd sometimes I have wished I was a guy so I could be with a girl (although I can turn that off easy). That was just a lust thing for a while. I could turn it on and off easily. It was just a fantasy thing. But it's wierd I've never really wanted a close intimate relationship but if it ever came to that hypothetically I feel like I wouldn't be as comfortable with a guy and would be more comfortable with a girl. And not really sexual, just a more emotional relationship, and I feel like I couldn't have that with a guy so much. I've had minor sexual fellings, but nothing big, and it's almost like I can turn it on and off easily and it's no problem. I'm not interested in a relationship at all at this point but i'm just really curious as to what you think I might be if it ever comes to that. I just don't know what this makes me, bisexual, asexual? What do you think? By the way I had a birth defect and I was born without any reproductive anything and I take estrogen pills because otherwise my body wouldn't have produced anything, if that changes anything. I'm female but was born XY. Anyway I'm just curious it's not really affecting me at this point.
2006-12-01 08:00:50 · 12 answers · asked by leena 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe bisexual but leaning toward being a lesbian at this point in your life. I wouldn't go so far as to say asexual. It just sounds like you may have a low sex drive. The estrogen pill thing is something I know nothing about. I don't know if that effects someones sex drive. I actually know a lot of people who explain themselves the same way you just did. I don't think it's weird if that's what you're asking.
2006-12-01 08:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by Pico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are only 18!
You're just now starting to get a little inkling as to the woman you'll be. You don't have to figure all this out now! The experiences you'll have in the next few years will help you sort out who you are.
But never be ashamed!
EDIT: Sorry, I didn't read the last part of your question. You need to see your doctor right away. Your estrogen might be off, and yes I do think that your birth defect has A LOT to do with how you're feeling right now.
2006-12-01 16:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes the lack of estrogen causes loss of sexual drive, since you don't think of anything sexual either for girls or boys at all. Your lack of re-productivity might be a reason to confuse you about your sexual identity. This may in conclusion result in a distraction of your sexual interest and a shift to girls. You may need a psychological help to find it out. But yet, if you can neglect the physical and psychological disturbances, the rest seems normal, for any teenager like you. Either way u end up mustn't be a problem for you. The world accepts all colors, don't worry
2006-12-01 16:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by ddyk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, to be confuse about this. I am also 18 and I look at girl too just because I want to look like a normal girl, you see I am fat and most boys don't like me, but just as a friends, so I would like to be a pretty and skinny girl. Admitting that you think you are gay is the first step and I know a lot of people in your situation, but confronted. All I can tell you is to talk about this with someone you thrust and see what they think is going on with you.
2006-12-01 16:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would classify you as bi-curious. There is nothing wrong with your feelings and you still can have relations with both men and women if you so desire. My wife is bi, and I think it's cool that she has female friends and I do not interfere with any of her relationships. Good luck sweetie.
2006-12-01 16:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's ur question be clear about it,u can contact me personally im online rite now.......u knw what everything which u tell is exactly the same with me but just tht i cant put it on n off myself....n i have sexual desires too n i think this mite happen......
2006-12-01 16:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by kawal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you think you are a Lezzy, but in fact you are just curious! And the cure is that you need a very BIG... man! No pun intended. But if you are REALLY leaning toward the gay side of life, sleep with a big GAY man, after all, if you are gay, and he is gay, shouldn't it be alright?
2006-12-01 16:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by tjaye8000 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd have to agreee that you are curious about women and are unsure about your felling right now...take it slow and see what happens...Good Luck
2006-12-01 16:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by susanbi_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your feelings
2006-12-02 04:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also think ur bi-curious. And theres nothin wrong with that!
2006-12-01 16:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋