My best friend who is 13 has just lost her mom to cancer today. What should i do? Should i call her? should i email her. Should i go over her house anytime soon? She didn't come to school today and i found out after school. Will it change everything when she comes back? My class wants to do something for her and her family except she doesn't like people's pity. I knew her mom and i can't believe that she isn't here anymore:(
I AM SOOOO SAD:(
2006-12-01 07:54:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Does anyone have any ideas of what my class can do for her? Make her something? Give her something from the class? I was thinking that i should probably just give her some time before i call and tell her that i heard about her mom because everyone was talking about it. It might just make her sadder, you know?
2006-12-01 08:10:45 · update #1
be there for her the best way you can spend some time with her, she might not like people's pity but she will always remember that you were there for her in her time of need and that she could count on you to always be there for her....
2006-12-01 08:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. My Dad died while I was at school, it was horrible, no one contacted me and I felt like no one cared. I know now that it must just have been hard for people to know what to do at that age. Best thing to do is to give her a little bit of time - maybe a couple of days, she'll still be in shock. Then send her a card and just write what you feel .... that you're sorry to hear what happened and if she ever needs some time away to talk, she can call you. Just let her know that someone cares, will mean alot to her.
2006-12-01 16:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom passed away when i was 11, so i know the feeling. But the best thing my friends could do for me was just sit with me, not try to make thing better, just be there with me. and when she comes back to school, it will feel a little weird for a bit, but after awhile, everything will be ok. Just remember, if she needs a friend, be there for her, and if she wants to talk about it, let her, but don't try to make her.
2006-12-01 16:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by yupyup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum died of cancer 4 years ago, Your friend will be very upset for quite along time, there is nothing you can really do to help her feel better, BUT do call her and say you are thinking about her and say that you are there for her, one of my friends rang me up soon after my mum died and just said simply I'm really sorry, and if you need anything at any time call me, and that was very much appreciated.
2006-12-01 16:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes! Call her! Go see her! Just tell her you are sorry she lost her mom and to let you know if there is anything you can do. Then stay with her. Whether she talks to you or not, if she is crying or depressed, just be there for her. She needs all of her friends and their support now.
2006-12-01 16:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by Roberta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a Sympathy Card
2006-12-01 15:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her best friend....go to her house and just be there for her.
2006-12-01 15:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋