I miscarried on Monday and I am taking it really hard. Nothing I am doing seems to help the pain. I hate the fact that I miscarried and I am really wanting to try again, but the doctor told me to wait for three months. What happens if I get pregnant before the three months is up? Would I miscarry again? Will I able to get pregnant sooner because it took me 11 months to get pregnant with the one I miscarried with? I have also been angry, angry at myself because I feel it's my fault and I don't understand why me and my husband, why my baby? What can I do to relieve anger. Is there anyone that got pregnant soon after they miscarried and had a healthy baby? Please help and thanks a million!
2006-12-01 07:51:14 · 13 answers · asked by ~M*a*N*d*Y~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm sorry about your loss. I had 3 early miscarriages before finally having my son and then lost a baby girl at 21 weeks, so I know how frustrating and devestating it is. Please check out this website. There is also a link to a yahoo groups for women that have lost babies due to miscarriage, still birth, neo-natal death. www.angles4ever.com. They have a memoreial wall where you can put baby's name (If you had a name picked out) and the date you miscarried. Please take time to check it out, and remember that YOU are not to blame for what happened to your baby. Miscarriages happen for a reason, and while we might not fully understand, God has his reasons. Take care of yourself
BTW: I got pregnant with my now 2 year-old son within a month after my 3rd miscarriage.
2006-12-01 07:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi... i am very sorry to hear about what happened... the same thing happened to me a year ago and i am just starting to get over it. I was 3 months along and it feels like yesterday. If you get pregnant before the three months i feel as though there isn't more of a chance that it will happen again then it would any other time. The doctors usually tell u to wait because you will be emotional and that woudn't be good for the baby. Just remember it isn't your fault and you are not alone. My step sister did have a miscarriage and a month after she got pregnant and had a healthy beautiful baby girl. If you want to talk about it and have any other questions just email me at Melome87@aol.com... good luck with everything. Just be strong and look forward to the future.. or try to, I no it is hard.. I have come to realize that the more i dwell on the past and am patient with trying again the more likely it will happen sooner. You will never forget what happened and thats fine... it will get easier with time, people told me that and i didn't believe them because i just wanted my baby back, but it will get easier.. good luck again and email me!
2006-12-01 15:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry, but DO NOT blame yourself. It is not your fault, and you did nothing wrong. Sometimes for no reason at all, a woman's body will abort a pregnancy. It could be for any number of reasons. But most importantly, take some time for yourself. It is important to remember that your body has just been through a physical ordeal, and it needs time to heal. Your doctor is right. You need to wait at least that long, especially if you were previously on birth control. It's hard to say exactly what would happen if you got pregnant again, but I wouldn't think the chances would be good for keeping that pregnancy either.
The best thing that you can do right now is not blame yourself. Talk about what happened. Find a support group, a family member, a friend, someone. Don't keep this all bottled up inside. Also remember to include your husband on this issue. It was his baby too. You too need to really support eachother right now.
I hope this helps. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-01 16:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by spikeyblonde_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me I know what anger you are talking about. I have miscarried twice and have healthy son and i am currently 18 weeks now and we are waiting to see what we are having. My first time I got pregnant I miscarried in march of 2000 and amazing we had my son March of 2001. It took me five years to get pregnant this round and I miscarried in May of 06 and my baby is due in May of 2007. Not only was I very angry but I questioned myself all the time. This pregnancy is hard to enjoy because I have such a negative feeling leftover and just waiting for something to go wrong. I miscarried May 25th and got pregnant Aug 11. My doctor told me its not uncommon to get pregnant after a miscarry because it clears your uterus. Ive had other friends who got pregnant within two months and had healthy babies. Just because you miscarried doesn't mean it will happen again.
I suggest one thing, Remember it is nothing you did and when your body is ready it will happen. I had to wait five years to have a sibling for my son, and he has been waiting patiently.
2006-12-01 16:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. There are reasons why your body and the baby were not compatible. Who knows, maybe the baby had some serious congenital problems and your body chose to reject it. If you doctor says to not try for three months it is possible that he/she wants you to wait until your uterus is healthy again. Your body would probably reject it again if it isn't ready. Wait especially if you had a D and C. If you are the support group kind of gal there are groups available. Ask your doc. If not, I suggest you and your husband talk to someone. Even though it was a miscarriage, it is still a loss of life and that is hard for anyone. I have practiced yoga for years and it is the ultimate anger reliever. When all else fails, cry, scream, punch pillows do what you need to. Best of luck!
2006-12-01 16:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by ashpea2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself. I have had three miscarraiges. I had two at first. My first one i was eight weeks along and my second one i was five weeks along. I was getting so dicouraged. Then finally one year later i had a beautiful baby girl. I am so happy that i didn't stop trying. About six months after having her i came up pregnant again. NOT PLANNED! I had another misscarraige but this time i was 3 months along. This was the hardest one to deal with even though i have a beautiful girl. Time will heal all. Don't give up God will give you what you want. Just pray and love yourself. It will happen when the time is right. God Bless.
2006-12-01 15:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your doctor. The reason why people miscarry is because the baby wasn't viable. I know you are having a hard time and you may want to ask your doctor if there is someone that you could talk to. Goodluck!
2006-12-01 15:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Denise G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing will be better for you than you being healthy yourself. You need to wait and get a clean bill of health so that you can provide the best for your baby. Emotionally, you don't seem ready. Time heals some wounds.
If it is to be, it will happen. Don't rush, it may cost you the life of another child or your own. I wish you well.
WOO
2006-12-01 15:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I missed carried before and at 2months i was pregnant. I had a set of healthy Triplets that are now 3 months. So don't woory. Lose the stress Relax. Calm your self. When this happened to me my husband told me to go get a massage and it really helped. My friends were also really helpful. If you need help email me.
2006-12-01 15:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by Tooori. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading your other questions..i think you should talk to your doctor about some antidepressants because you were crying a lot before you miscarried.....i think you need maybe a little bit of counceling so you can get through this and whatever else is bothering you...im sure you will have a healthy baby soon...just you need to lower your stress levels...goodluck to you
2006-12-01 15:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋