I arrived home early from work found my girlfriend in lounge in dark with a neighbour drinking, she then asked him to go home, explaination he needed someome to talk to. We have lived there for 3 years never he has called on us before. This is not the first time she has gone behind by back what do you think ?
2006-12-01 07:47:39 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bring another woman home and drink with her.
:> peace
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2006-12-04 16:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This does seem a bit strange. Why were they drinking with the light off? If I were you I'd be very wary and watch out for any signs and if you find them alone in the dark again then confront them right there and then.
Leave things as they are for now, but if you can every now and then surprise her coming home early, just to check if your neighbour has come around again because he needs someone to talk to, and if he is there or if she is behaving and acting oddly just have it out with her
2006-12-01 08:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no leg to stand on. why? you only caught them in the dark drinking and talking. and her explanation was he needed someone to talk to. how can you argue that. maybe she was telling the truth or maybe not. you will never know that one. it does sound like something was going on because why would they be sitting in the dark. am sure you ask her that. want every the reason she gives you, you have to go on that. because you have no real prove she was doing anything. next time you come home early be real quite about it and if its your neighbor you'll catch her. and if she starts going over there a lot , you'll know if she cheating on you again. and if she cheated on you before and you forgave her she had no business sitting in the dark with another guy period or drinking with other man after she cheating the first time. if i was you, you need to stop for a moment in think about yourself, your mind and health. you need to start reading self help books from Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger she wrote ten stupid things men do to mess up their lives its easy reading its sold in most book stores. please get it before you move on with this women. this is not a women you want to married and have children with. and Dr. Laura has a talk radio 640am 12noon to 3pm Mon to Fri ca time
2006-12-01 08:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This story is not without a logical explanation, it's not impossible that she had a long talk with this bloke til it's gone dark. It's not impossible that she was simply cheating or about to cheat. You must know your girlfriend better than someone on the internet.
2006-12-01 09:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id be suspicious if its not the first time. I wonder why she'd do that though, what was the reason before? Id have a chat with her and ask her and yourself if you need to work on anything in the relationship, its better you get things out in the open that resort to having to spy on her etc.
2006-12-01 07:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by herbal ashtray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust her and it sounds like you don't either. Why did she tell him to go home once you got there? Couldn't he have stayed and talked to you both? I would say it is very dodgy and if she has done it before then it's not impossible for her to stray away again. Don't give her a third chance if she is cheating.
2006-12-01 07:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it sounds like it to me. Why would she be in a dark room with someone of the opposite sex, other than you? Sounds disrespectful. The best way to find out for sure is ask her, and then determine if you believ her answer.
2006-12-01 07:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by ericak1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the her. Thats not something you do. If she has cheated on you before then she is probably doing it again. Ask dude what he was talking to her about. Get both sides of the story and see if they are alike. If not she needs to get the boot!
Good Luck!
2006-12-01 07:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by HotMommi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope that "once a cheater always a cheater" line is not necessarily true, confront her and let her have her say, there could be a perfectly innocent explanation, I'm not condoning cheating but if she has been maybe you both need to look at what is lacking in your relationship and sort it out, good luck.
2006-12-01 09:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds odd to me, if my neighbour needed to talk it wouldnt be in the dark with drinks... sorry mate!
2006-12-01 08:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by bumkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep you might need to reconsider the relationship. Is this what you really want think about it. If you felt she has wronged you and it hurts .. just YOU think about what YOU want out of life and I bet it's not a cheating woman.
2006-12-01 07:56:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋