I'm ready to get married, but I'm worried that if I come out and tell him that I am ready to get married that he will feel scared or worried that I am trying to push him into getting married. We've been together for almost a year, but only physically been together for for two months (he's in the service). Just need some advice on this topic. Thanks!!!!
2006-12-01 07:35:16 · 17 answers · asked by Chrissi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have had a few conversations about getting married before, but it's always been in passing between work and other commitments. He has made comments in passing about what the perks would be if we were married. Just worried that he's going to feel as if I'm pushing the subject. I just need some advice. By the way we're both in our early twenties.
2006-12-01 07:48:26 · update #1
just tell him, right and straight.
:> peace
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2006-12-04 16:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have'nt given it enough time. Patience. But you can always gaze at other couples when your together and when he ask what are you looking at. Say just admiring the married couple, say one day maybe it'll be me and you. And just smile and look away. You can also do this by watching a married couple on tv. And say maybe that will be me and you one day and then act like your really into the tv. And not waiting on a response. And then have patience he'll come around when he is ready.
2006-12-01 07:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Diamondbch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ya know.....
I think there should be a class on this,somewhere.
until then we have to ask what worked for the husbands. My husband just watched me picking up other peoples babies and drooling over kitchen appliences. I bought myself a hope chest and excitedly told him whenever I put anything in it. When my birthday came along he asked what I wanted for my hope chest... I said "you and a little white dress just my size" We were Married 2 mos later......... Its ok to want the white picket fence.
In the 70s woman fought for a CHOICE. I took the choice to be a wife and I still like it. However... read the book... He just not that into you if.....
I think its on Dr Phils site ! It could make you think!
Good luck,kiddo!
2006-12-01 08:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh puh-leeze! If you're deciding to make a commitment to spend the rest of your life together and build a future with someone that could very possibly include children, you don't "hint" and worry about "scaring" a grown man! You talk about marriage, family, your future, your goals, and where the relationship is heading. You don't "hint" -you talk it over like grown adults.
2006-12-01 07:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Trust me...Just don't do it. I am in a similar situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. I have been hinting for a while. Now it is about to happen and I feel like it would be more special if I had no idea. I know it is hard, but he will propose when he is ready.
2006-12-01 07:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by funnyhaha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well- the point is not about weather or not you're ready-the question is IS HE READY?? talk to him about what will come out of the relationship with you and if he intends in getting married or something and see what he says. If he has a negative reaction- don't waste your time and move on but if he tells you he wants to wait to save money- then you're ok! just emphasize to him how important this is to you and see how it goes
2006-12-01 07:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A year isn't a long time at all to be ready to get married, you should wait a bit more especially if he hasn't brought it up, if he hasn't brought it up then it more than likely means he's not ready to, let him bring it up first or you may do what u don't want to do...push him away
2006-12-01 07:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kollege Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your incorrect about adult men, once you imagine about it youthful adult men would have had sex with virgins making an equivalent quantity of non virgin females. Im 16 and that i comprehend various of fellows that are virgins, Theres extra virgin adult men in severe college then the different position. And adult men desirous to have sex in severe college is a wide-spread element we are meant to pick to have sex because our hormones make us, we are surely meant to have sex after puberty, in case you imagine of older circumstances like from the 1600s to 1800s fairly some human beings would get married from round 13 to 16. now decrease back to the topic, being a virgin in till marriage is an really unlikely element now adays in view that human beings wait so long to get married. virgin or non virgin the alternative is yours.
2016-11-30 00:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by schiavone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend gave me an Antique Gold pocket watch engraved
with my name and her name.....Her name with my surname..
I got the hint and asked her to marry me about 2 minutes later..
2006-12-01 07:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well leaving a bridal magazine around where he will see it is a sure hint or maybe mention a friends wedding plans to him to see how he reacts to it or just in general bring up what you would like to do for your wedding and see what he says.
2006-12-01 07:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by jess0866 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, what one of my girlfriends did was to just casually walk into a ring shop once when we were out walkling. Another as a joke if I went to the ground to pick something up, if I was on one knee she would say "I accept." Just kinda joke about it.
2006-12-01 07:38:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋