What is good right now about your marriage?...What is not part of your life plan?
2006-12-01 07:32:35 · 15 answers · asked by Tabor 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married or live in with for longer than i lived at home with my parents and i didn't like that for too long either.
i guess there is no way of being yourself when others are involved, generally i don't like poetry either but sometimes it just seems to fit certain situations and one of few i know is by fredrick s pearl and i may get it close but it goes something like this...
If you are you
because
i am i
and
i am i
because
you are you
then
you
are not
you
and
i
am not
i
but
we are something in common.
It was way easier to be married for life when life expectancy was 39.
can you be better off married can you adjust to the compensation of adjustments and find comfort getting unmarried can sometimes be not so fun either i guess they wouldn't call it marriage if it didn't marr ya ;)
Ob1
2006-12-01 16:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by old_brain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am struggling with that right now, and its quite hard because we have two children. I met my husband right after I got divorced the first time from a marriage that just happened too young. I moved to the other side of the country, lonely, depressed, and all I knew for certain was I wanted children. My husband is smart, nice, handsome...a good man. I am just not sure if we ever were truly "in love" or just happy to have someone else to be with and build a life. Now I just feel lost and wonder if I followed my path or the path my parents insisted on. People say you can chose to be in love but I don't buy that because I have tried. I want to stay in this marriage because of the children but I am not the best actress and I still have feelings for that first love that my parents hated from 18 years ago...my life is a mess. Sorry for the long answer, not sure this confession is what you were looking for.
2006-12-01 07:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your using the lack of being able to have a child as an excuse. YOU don't need a child nor a wife Charley because your not ready for marriage. With comments like, "I find myself looking at other women and wishing to pursue them". THAT means you don't need a wife. THAT means you need to stay single and not have kids either. Your unhappy don't cheat. Get a divorce. Something I have never understood was men who cheat and all they had to do was get a divorce then move on. So use some common sense here.
2016-03-13 01:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I made a mistake. I feel like the biggest idiot in the world for marrying someone that I only dated for 4 months in my adult life. (dated the idiot as a teenager) Now we are about to start the divorce process. And how sad it is that I feel relieved and am happy that this "partnership" will soon be over. I am so cold that I can't even cry and I don't want to. It is pretty easy to get over a man that only loves himself.
2006-12-01 07:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by ~~~sigh~~~ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married but i always view marriage in certain ways.
first let us start with the positive things about it. when you are married to someone, it's like you really get to know your partner and you benefit from each other's company all the time but that too become boring sometimes. you know that you can really count on your partner and he/she cannot walk away from you however he/she wants. the tricky thing is that you might come to realize that you do not love your spouse anymore or you might marry the wrong person etc.... these are the reasons why i think people should really think it more than twice before they sacrifice their life.
2006-12-01 07:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by lizie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure every once in awhile everyone who is married asks "what if" but, being married to someone meens you will accept the good times and the bad! My marriage has had its ups and downs, but what I like, is that we always find a way to work it out, no matter how bad the problem. We vowed to spend the rest of our life together, and that's what we plan to do.
2006-12-01 07:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by veronica c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married barely after I turned 21. After a while, I missed being out at the club and partying. But then I think about what it would be like without my husband, and I cry. He's my bestfriend, and even though he makes me mad, I love him with all my heart and soul.
2006-12-01 07:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by haw1180 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married when i was 13yrs old. I did it to get out of an abusive family. I had 5 children and because of my decision to get married i made my life and that of my children a living hell.
2006-12-01 07:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by barb4robbie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married and I consider it the smartest thing Ive ever done. Mostly because I would be divorced by now and I don't know one truly happily married couple :(
2006-12-01 08:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by Nixxi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from a man that has been married for over 8 year and have a 7 year old boy. It is the best thing in the world . i live and play with my best friend and wife, and you now she make cute kids to.
2006-12-01 07:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋