I used to be friends with a really cute Jehovah's witness, but I'm an athiest and she refused to go out with me. I've had a nervous breakdown, and all I can think about is ways of getting her back. Her family has rejected me, and my family don't understand. what do I do??
2006-12-01 07:21:35 · 22 answers · asked by Maximillian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You really need to find someone else and get over it.
I used to be friends with a Jehovah's Witness and to me, her family was wacky. We were like maybe 10 years old or not even and when I would go to her place, we'd HAVE to have a Bible Study, then, when we would watch Wishbone together or play with dolls. One day, there was an episode on Wishbone with the Devil and when he spoke, my friend muted the TV and told me that her parents didn't want her to be listening to the Devil or something like that.
That wasn't the reason why we stopped being friends. We stopped being friends because my parents stopped allowing me to go to her place. Then, awhile later her and her mom ran into my dad at a grocery store and she tried to say hi to my dad but her mom scolded her and just turned up her nose at my dad.
2006-12-01 07:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like normal male reaction to any significant breakup. It doesn't need to include any connection to a religion. Males commit suicide four times as often as women do after a breakup. After a long term marriage, if the wife passes away, the man will live just two years, compared to 20 for a woman who loses her husband. If the widower forms another attachment to a woman, his chances of living longer improves. Married males also live 25 years longer than single men, while there is no difference in women.
2006-12-01 21:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there are obvious differences between people and this is one of those things that can't usually be overcome. There are a million chicks out there. There is bound to be some that have more in common with your beliefs OR some that are more open-minded. Think of this type of belief as a way of life... they clash.
Write a list of the things you're looking for in a woman... I doubt this type of situation will be at the top of your list. And you deserve the top rankers :) take this as one of those moments in life where you don't get what you want... it's not meant to be man, or it would be right now.
2006-12-01 07:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by smartie_pantalones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good thing about being an atheist is that you don't have to worry about going to hell if you lie. Tell the girl's family (Kelly's family?) that you want to learn the religion and go with them house to house regardless of the humiliation involved.
After a while you will see what a dull tool this girl really is and run screaming from the area.
2006-12-01 07:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible teaches not to marry outside the Lord and Jehovah's Witnesses follow the Bible. And JWs also only date with the intention of marriage.
2006-12-01 12:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by waterbugirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a girl refuses to date you solely based on religious reasons, then you are probably not missing out on much. The problem with fanatics of any sort is that they believe irrationally that their cause is the only truth, and they will not accept any outsiders who deny any part of their faith. It's not only true about religious fanatics, look at militant nationalists, racists, etc. They only accept true believers, and purge their ranks of any dissenters.
If she truly understood Christ's message, she would love unbelievers and help them to find their own faith, not exclude them. Some people, though, are more in love with their religion than with the message of their own prophet. There is nothing you can do or say that would make any difference to that kind of person, because they are raised to believe blindly in the cause and to serve only their own organization. Ironically, if she was more true to Christ's message, she would be less likely to reject you on that basis alone. The Bible has examples of persons married to non-believers, and even says it's okay, so long as they don't meddle in the upbringing of children.
As an atheist you are the worst kind of sinner in their mind, worse even than a follower of a heathen faith. This makes you an untouchable to them, and they will shun you. The fault lies not with you, but with narrowminded people of all sorts. It is not your loss, but theirs. I'm sure your life will work out happily in the end, although I admit it is hard to believe that when your life is in a shambles. If they reject you on purely a religious, or race, or monetary or whatever basis, it only proves that they are contemptuous and unworthy themselves.
Don't worry about your rejection. They are hypocrites who are beyond reasoning. The French philospher Voltaire wrote: "The human brain is a complex organ with the wonderful power of enabling man to find reasons for continuing to believe whatever it is that he wants to believe."
2006-12-01 08:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by mortis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jehovah's Witnesses understand the Scriptures as clearly instructing a true worshipper to marry only another true worshipper.
(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.
(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.
(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.
(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.
(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
The Scriptures also warn against elevating human desires above godly teachings.
(2 Thessalonians 2:1-3) We request of you not to be quickly shaken from your reason... Let no one seduce you in any manner
(Romans 16:17-18) Keep your eye on those who cause ... stumbling contrary to the teaching that you have learned, and avoid them. ...by smooth talk and complimentary speech they seduce the hearts of guileless ones.
(2 Timothy 4:3-5) For there will be a period of time when they will not put up with the healthful teaching, but, in accord with their own desires, they will accumulate teachers for themselves to have their ears tickled... You, though, keep your senses in all things, suffer evil, do the work of an evangelizer, fully accomplish your ministry.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/19990215/article_01.htm
2006-12-01 08:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am an athiest and I married a Catholic girl who became a Witness
less than a year after we married.....Great group of people...
The best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love..
2006-12-01 07:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my mom is a jehovah's witness and i will tell you that you can't get her back. if she is a devout JW then there is nothing you can do. its not that her and her family to don't like you as a person, but because if of your religion, they don't want you influencing their daugther. make new friends, and find someone who is ok with your beliefs. in time, you will get over her, trust me.
2006-12-01 07:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by Essie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a Jehovah's Witness, I can speak to it by saying...leave it alone. Most (if not all JW's) will never turn our back on our faith, and you are an atheist. Just go and find someone who is like you.
2006-12-01 07:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by FavoredbyU 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋