2006-12-01 07:18:40 · 11 answers · asked by catweazle 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It depends on whether you have invited them to your home, what I mean is, was it a specific invitation (for example a meal on a specific date). Sometimes people get very lazy and don't bother to make effort to get off their **** and go and see people, they know if they wait long enough you will come back to them. A vague invitation is not enough - these types need definite date and times! If they still don't come then yes, it is rude and they are not valueing the friendship
2006-12-01 07:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all honny.
My best friend has visited me twice in the last 6 years. WHY? She now has a young baby and a cat to care for. Im more than willing to travel to see them all. As its a long way, we travel and make a whole weekend out of it and have FUN!!!
Plus before we moved house, my flat was very small and had nowhere for anyone to sleep.
On the other hand, when my two kids were babies and I couldnt get out of the house much, she came to visit me all the time.
In fact she was there visiting me in hospital when I had my first born.
When her little one arrived, I wasnt there for hers.
Deep down, it all depends on the strength and qualities of your freidnship and how close you are.
Me and my friend are exceptionally close, and weve known each other for 20+ yrs...any issues we have, we call and talk. Its all a matter of trust and honesty at the end of the day. Maybe theyre waiting for an invite? What are yours and their circumstances? young kids? pets? elderly people need caring for? job responsibilities?
On the other hand, if your all twenty somethings, single with no kids and free from work in the evenings, no theres not much of an excuse not to visit.
Talk to them and find out....after all your friendship must be good. If it wasnt, you wouldnt be posting about it here!!! ;o)
Good luck!
2006-12-01 07:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by cazkenton2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so, if it isn't tough for them to leave home for a weekend or whatever e.g. if they have kids or pets that need looking after.
I have friends that live a few hours away. We try and visit each other as much as our commitments allow but invariably, over a period of time, it becomes slightly unbalanced with us visiting them more or vice-versa.
If my friends weren't willing to make the trip ever, it would raise questions in my mind. Why don't you invite them over and see what they say?
2006-12-01 07:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In my part of the country (US) we just assume that everyone has a pretty full schedule or a good reason for not asking you over. Nothing personal. ; )
We'd also invite the friend back or out. Tallies aren't helpful in friendship.
2006-12-01 07:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by tantiemeg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at their circumstances i.e. is it possible for them to visit you, do they have a car, do they need a baby sitter etc. If there is no reason why they can't visit you maybe you should specifically ask them round. If they still do not appear you can assume they depend on you going round to theirs and it is just laziness.
2006-12-01 08:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure, im really bad when it comes to things like this, its not that i dont want to see the person, its just i can never seem to find the time. Something i need to change i think!
2006-12-01 08:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by herbal ashtray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily. Have you invited them to your home? If so and they don't visit, you might be right, but many people need an invitation
2006-12-01 07:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can assume they don't put out as much effort. Try bringing it up and see how they respond
2006-12-01 07:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but not necessarily. They could just be busy, or waiting for an invitation.
2006-12-01 07:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by lola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mybe there inhibited
2006-12-01 08:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by STORMY K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋