2006-12-01 07:04:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes it's hard because you just can't let go of what happened between you. You may have shared a long past with ups and downs and you were not expecting him/her to do something you are unable to forgive. It is possible to forgive evenutally, but there is a great chance that it will not be forgotten. A person needs to realize and think as to whether they are going to let something bother them so much as to not to forgive someone or just let it go and continue on your way.
2006-12-01 07:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to forgive someone, because they hurt u to deep and u don't know if u can ever trust them again. Once someone breaks your trust thats a hard thing to regain again, if u can at all. I had this happen to me before, I guy I was in love with, and he promised the moon and stars, but I could not do a long distance relationship, I told him this upfront. He said we can make a go of it, needless to say, it didn't work, and he saw other girls while he lived in his home state. So, when u put your trust and heart into someone it is hard to forgive and forget, once they do that to u they will do it again....
2006-12-01 07:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what the hell they done. How deep it hurted you what are the consequences. if htey cheated theres a reason so ask why talk it out prevent it again and try to heal in time. If the relationship cant be resolved then forgive yourself for being so hard. We all expect HIGH expectations at times. People do the stupidest things as were human. We are not perfect if this was the case there would be no religious wars etc. Who said christ was sent to forgive our sins as were born in it we are not perfect.We are not robots. Life is learning and healing a constant lesson. wether or not ya believe in that just know in your mind you were shocked so bad you was so vulnerable innocent and you are in shock. get help do things open your heart again and try not to take it so personal as a slam to your ego. If this was a deliberate malice calculated thing then they the offender needs to answer some of your concerns confront.. ask.. perhaps all can heal but if not you don't have to forget or discount the thing they done just get thru it its their head who hurt you so bad.Im sure they feel bad. you mention no subject or nature of the hurt. we talking murder on a relative of yours or cheating or malicious intent, thieving something or wot?to me i been thru it all.. its their future and damnation on their head. We must go on live to the best WE can be.
2006-12-01 07:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are capable of forgiving someone, but forgetting about it is another story. The best way to handle this is realize that you will never forget, but you can choose to forgive, and forgiving means that you can't bring it up again EVER! It isn't something you can throw in their face to win another argument. You have to let it go and make a pledge to move on.
2006-12-01 07:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time to forgive someone when they have hurt you so badly. The forgiveness will come but you will never forget. It will always be looming in the back of your mind. You should let this person go, otherwise, you will torment yourself and them too.
2006-12-01 07:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases it is because someone is lied to. If the same lie is being repeated, how could you forgive them. A person can say "I'm sorry" all they want, but it is just words. In order to prove you are sorry, you have to SHOW them you are sorry. In other cases, the person can do something that is just so wrong that it isn't forgivable. In my case, he did something totally unforgivable and repeatedly told me he was sorry only to keep doing the exact same thing over and over. His "I'm sorry" didn't mean, "I'm sorry I did it". It meant "I'm sorry I got caught...again".
2006-12-01 18:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound crazy but to forgive someone is to forgive your self. and what I mean is it's soul searching you. letting go it's clearing out your mind and bad feelings you have against that person who did something bad Thurs you. we humans focus on the other person so much that we carrying the hurt and anger. and that's neutral to do because were the one who got hurt want ever that person did to you, you keep pichering it in your head, and to forgive it not to forget and that's what keeps us from not forgiving . you really have to free yourself or your going to stay angry and hurt and its you who will be left behind from all that bitterness inside you.and its not a easy thing to do, but if you want to move on you HAVE to forgive YOU.....then you say, but it was me who got hurt, not other person, he or she did me wrong why do I have to forgive, to release all the anger and hurt and bitterness from that hurt inside you and it don't happen overnight. something like that takes time.
2006-12-01 07:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its very difficult to accept when trust is betrayed that the person that hurt you still loves you. I think forgiveness comes down to how much you love that person who did the hurting and if you believe that person is sincerely sorry.
Good luck.
2006-12-01 07:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people choose to forgive, but we cant really chose to forget, things stay with us.
2006-12-01 07:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you can't be sure they won't do it again. And it is basically impossible to forget. Also you don't want to get hurt again.
2006-12-01 07:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋