i have cheated on my wife on and off for about ten years. when i cheated i did i was discrete about my business because i didn't want no one to find out about it. i have been a great boyfriend and husband besides the fact that i was sleeping around. i took care of this woman and catered to her every need but i felt like she didn't appreciate me. she was never really supportive of the things i did and she was always a little to quiet for me. she never communicated about anything unless we were on the verge of a breakup. this kept me in the street talking to and later sleeping with other women. i love my wife very much and she is all i need but i don't think she knows how to treat a man. i am a good person i never put my hands on her and i was told by her family members that i am the perfect gentleman. just recently she had an affair with a co worker and it turned my world upside down. she initially wantyed to leave me but now she wants to work it out. we have 3 kids. what should i do?
2006-12-01 07:04:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apparently she's not all you need.
You love her, but she
"never really supportive of the things i did and she was always a little to quiet for me. she never communicated about anything....i don't think she knows how to treat a man"
Think you've answered your own question.
Time for you two to go your separate ways. Because this cycle will never stop and sooner or later you're gonna give each other incurable sexual diseases. Hope not the kind that would leave your kids orphaned
2006-12-01 07:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me, like you rushed into this marriage. You say she was a little too quiet for you? You should've realized that about her personality before you got married. I think she cheated on you to give you a dose of your own medicine. The Co-Worker means nothing. Why would you want to get back with her when you just said that she doesn't know how to treat a man. You'll only cheat again.
2006-12-01 15:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, your wife knew of your multiple affairs. She might have isolated to deal with her pain. Regardless, two wrongs do not make one right. You say that your world was turned upside down, when you learned of her affair...how do you think she feels towards your affairs'? If you truly love each other, than all affairs need to stop. Have you tried marriage counseling?
2006-12-01 15:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wel you could talk about what you both want out of life coz its too short and maybe you can both be discreet and explore the swingers scene or orgie groups or do a threesome one time with 2 women and next time 2 men
2006-12-01 15:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots and lots of counseling. If you want to be with this women you need to be able to get over the betrayal and you also need to come clean so she can get over what you did. You both need to learn how to communicate, because it seems you're both missing something in this relationship.
2006-12-01 15:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay married, but both get checked for STDs
2006-12-01 15:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should consider swinging... but you'll have to overcome the lack of honesty first.
2006-12-01 15:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling.
2006-12-01 15:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋