I have no trouble "taking care of business" myself, but when it comes to my partner doing it for me - which she loves to do - I am unable to get off. I have tried coaching and gone as far as using her hand to try it myself, but to no avail. When we are making love I usually end up "finishing the task" myself and she gets mad because she is unable to do it like I can... How can i fix this?
2006-12-01 06:50:33 · 7 answers · asked by whit2982 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I ran into this same problem with a girl friend I had. I basically showed her by doing things to her and explained as I did them. The whole "lesson" was so erotic. She did great after that.
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2006-12-01 07:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Leesa K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try longer and more passionate foreplay. That way you will already be in a "zone" to receive pleasure. Also, if somewhere in your mind, you feel uncomforable, that may be "blocking you". I had a boyfriend, very very sweet guy, well endowed so he had to be careful with me, i saw the same thing, sometimes when we made love, he would have to finish himself off or no matter what I did, he had to stimulate himself to keep it up, his problem was porn, he had done is so much that I think he was just more into that than a warm body. Also, try fantasizing about other times you were together that were good and touch her while things are going on. If it is emotional then that would be harder to fix.
2006-12-01 07:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by betterthanhers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found if my brain is not with the person ... im with... the whole sex thing is at a complete loss ...be careful not to let your mind go elsewhere. doesnt sound like.. u in love... quit while your ahead.
2006-12-01 06:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a book called forbidden flowers by nancy friday. it's a compilation of women's sexual fantasies, very erotic, or go to nifty stories.com, a lot of sexual feeling is mental, imagine a scene that really turns you on
2006-12-01 07:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by j. a. prufrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mental/emotional problem.
2006-12-01 06:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should show her exactly where your spots are and show her how to rub or (whatever) you prefer , you. It took my man awhile before he got it too....But don't you both perform oral as well, do you get off that way?
2006-12-01 07:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a bit the "Monty" in ya, to help out....let me know !!!
2006-12-01 06:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋