The horrible things we do to eachother is astonishing.
I know we've all gone through it. I know we've all done it to someone. Why? Why do we hurt the ones we love? Why do we throw away the people who love us? Is it worth the abuse from the person you love, to stay with them for the sake of love?
2006-12-01 06:46:56 · 9 answers · asked by Joseph K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Every situation is going to be different. I've been married (to the same woman) for 14 years. We've both hurt each other plenty of times, but we have stuck it out. The important thing is to be open with each other. Communicate. It seems like a stupid answer but it's really how simple the whole thing is. Communication is the key to a great relationship. And yes, it's worth it.
2006-12-01 06:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Reverend Jank 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've had some bad experiences, and made some bad choices... yes, we often get hurt when we love, but by far not every love relationship is full of abuse and disrespect. There can be no excuse for choosing to be in an abusive relationship.
2006-12-01 15:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think true love is worth it. But I don't think what you are describing from your experience is true love. I think you need to keep looking. Well said from the movie The Princess Bride, "True love does not happen every day."
Alot of people say on this site that you can choose who you love, and communication solves everything. I don't buy that if you don't have that all important connection with someone. That can't be created. Lust and great friendship can be mistaken for love, if some desperation and lonliness is stirred in, but true love is rare.
2006-12-01 15:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I have been at the receiving end of the anguish and I feel your pain. HOWEVER, I have never done it to anyone and will never be 'that girl'. It will get better. I sense that you are not talking in the abstract but out of your own pain. Don't stay with someone who hurts you, dear. You don't deserve it and she's not worth it. In the long run, you'll be happy it's over.
2006-12-01 14:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
all the astonishing things you mention, which we ALL have experienced (because it's part of the human experience, no single human would be exempt then) is WORTH IT! what you need to understand in order to live successfully is that LOVE IS GIVING. Giving meaning to give complete, to not judge, abuse, or anything else. GIVE, and you will LIVE. LIVE, LOVE, AND LAUGH my friend!
2006-12-01 15:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by JACK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abuse? NO. Nothing's worth the abuse. That's not love. That's dependency.
2006-12-01 14:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by jdhs 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the person you love is abusing you, it is time to go. Obviously they do not love you back, and a one sided love is no good love at all.
2006-12-01 14:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Without a doubt it is worth every second of the anguish......
2006-12-01 15:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by Steven A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the abuse isn't worth it....not at all....
2006-12-01 18:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋