My GF and i love each other no doubt about it. Weve only been together for 4 months. She has a 5 year old daugther and lives with the father they are far away. The guilt that shes feeling about leaving them affects our relationship. When i first dated her she said it was over between the 2 of them, but they are still technically married on paper and she still stuck hasnt filed for annulment. And everytime the EX sends TEXT messages and everytime this happens she zones out and becomes non responsive. But we have great sex and were good together but it seems like she cant let go of the past. She said she doesnt want to hurt the kid by telling her that shes moving on because shes to young and also the ex is constantly trying to win her back and threathening to do something stupid everytime. How do i help us with this???
2006-12-01 06:46:32 · 7 answers · asked by merckk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the guilt and lonliness she is feeling is normal and it takes awhile to get over that kind of relationship that involves children. she may not get over him because he still has to be part of the childs life. is that something that you can handle?
2006-12-01 07:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by pegasis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I say leave her until she knows what she wants to do. She already has baggage, which isn't a reason to leave her, but if she is still having feelings about her ex, who is the father of her child, he has a bigger chance of being with her then you do. If you stay with her I have a feeling you will end up getting hurt. The longer you are with her the more hurt you will be. Tell her if she really loves you and wants to be with you and not her ex, then she will stop talking to him unless it has to do with their daughter. And definitly stop seeing her until she gets divorced or atleast in the process.
2006-12-01 07:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by silvienicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's really nothing you can do to help her. She has to make the choice on her own. Unfortunately you got involved with someone who was technically married at the time and now you have to deal with her baggage as well. The only thing you can do is let her decide on her own.
2006-12-01 06:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is using the child as an excuse. She stays with the father to have a complete family and stays with you for a fling. Nothing is going to change with her until she decides to change.
2006-12-02 02:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by marie_roberts2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your relationship with her on Hold until she decides what she wants to do.
2006-12-01 06:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she can have you or him but not both. She has to decide what she wants to do and go forward.
2006-12-01 07:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough.. for both of you... take it slow and give it time... that must be very hard for her... why did she leave in the first place...?
there isnt a whole lot you can do except give it time and good communiction ... its just going to be hard for a while....
2006-12-01 07:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋