laying on the couch watching tv in my night gown ( I dont wear underwear under my nightgown) and my husband knows that next thing I know he is performing oral sex on me. I did not ask him to but got real into it. he then pulled me off they couch and i was on top he stuck his penis in my face I DO NOT PERFORM ORAL sex!! So it pissed me off I got off and walked away he then got pissed off!! Started yelling that I dont do anything for him etc. Was i wrong??
2006-12-01 06:44:22 · 40 answers · asked by momof2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO WAY, stick your ground girl!! =)
2006-12-01 06:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by massiveshopaholic 3 · 0⤊ 8⤋
I guess my question is WHY don't you perform oral sex. You know that its fun to get but still do not feel compelled to give back.
It is a normal part of a healthy sex life. You have just decided that you do not?
I really wonder why he married you in the first place. That is a deal breaker in my eyes.
Additional comment:
WOW I just went back and read your question about your infidelity. Assuming you are cheap enough to cheat one would logically assume you can get over your " I DON"T DO ORAL" crap. That this guy still gives you oral after you had some other guys dick in there is a testament to his love ( or stupidity) for you. Lady you owe this guy a lot more than blow jobs but that would be a good start.
2006-12-01 07:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, no one likes having a penis "stuck in" her face, but still- it's more than a little self-centered of you to have just walked away! Unless you are paying him to perform for you, you should have at least given him a rain check for a day to surprise him with the same. Which means you need to get over yourself and decide whether you want an equality-based relationship or one where you obviously pull the "I don't do that" card and treat your husband like a prostitute.
2006-12-01 06:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little selfish to not perform on him when he does it to you. He is your husband, what is the problem? It almost comes across like you think he is gross and you don't want to be down there. What if that was the impression he was giving off to you? Marriage is a compromise and if he enjoys it, the least you could do is grant him it every now and then. Sticking to your guns on this one comes across as a little bit stuck up, like you are too good for it or something.
2006-12-01 07:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does the word SELFISH mean anything to you? You don't mind him going down on you but you wont bother to return the favor. If you wish not to go down on him then you could have done something for him instead of getting up and getting all pissed off at him for wanting something in return.
Maybe next time your husband is having sex with you, He should get off roll over and forget your needs.. How would that make you feel?
2006-12-01 06:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Issym 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How in the hell did you get "into" the oral sex he was giving you, and then all of a sudden didn't want to return the favor? Don't you know that what he did was very BRAVE? Women have periods and pop babies out of their vagina. Guys don't. It's easier to give a man oral sex. Just be glad you have it easier than men in this case.
2006-12-01 07:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Valentine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're wrong, but I think you shouldn't allow him to perform oral sex on you if you won't do it to him. You're not weird for not liking to perform oral sex... it's not really a "natural" thing anyways. If it was, our heads would be a lot closer to our genitalia than it really is. Besides, even I'm not a huge fan of it and I'm perfectly normal. Why would you want to lick/suck something that a guy/girl pees out of? Sure, it's not too bad when a person is fresh and has just gotten out of the tub, but imagine the guy has been working all day, not taken a bath, peed a few times and god knows what else during the day, then he drops his pants and expects you to put your tongue around it?
No thanks.
2006-12-01 07:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are totally against performing oral sex and he knew about it, he was wrong to assume that you would do it. And he definately shouldn't have shoved it in your face, that's a big time turn off. He is your husband, and maybe you should try it, by doing the 69, that way the both of you are giving and recieving.
2006-12-01 06:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1. All he did was stick it in your face, not ram it down your throat. There are graceful ways to handle this.
2. I wonder if you do it on the man you had your 11 month sexual affair with?
The best thing for your husband would be for you to be hit by a truck. Hopefully he has life insurance on you.
2006-12-01 07:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, yes. If he does for you, you should do in return. Remember how you enjoyed it? Well what makes you think he would not feel the same way? If its not an equal partnership, don't be surprised when he leaves. Just do it, how long can it take? A few minutes and it would make he feel better about you.
2006-12-01 06:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lorinyct 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were wrong. There is no reason why you wouldn't perform oral sex. Swallowing is a whole different thing, but just to not do it is wrong.
2006-12-01 06:48:53 · answer #11 · answered by Jon O 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋