I feel like such a failure, i'm 24 living at home after a brief time renting, and the only relationship I can get is a FWB and I messed that up because of feelings for her. I feel like such a loser
2006-12-01 06:37:26 · 15 answers · asked by jjkjk h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-01 06:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't know what a FWB is? Sounds like you have low self esteem. Try to tell yourself that your aren't a looser. I think you have yourself convinced. A positive attitude can do a lot for you. People would rather be with some one that is happy and positive, than someone that is always having a pity party. It will get you further in the job market and all. So try to find your joy and don't let anyone tell you different. Nuts to them!
2006-12-01 14:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Afraid i don't know what a FWB is, though i can make up lots of things for it. But lets look at the rest.
Living at home at 24. Difficult to answer that one as I don't know why you are at home. But I suggest you look upon it is a brief blip. It is incredibly hard for people to move out of home, one of mine is also trying to but having difficulty. So, don't worry about that. As long as you are trying to move/earn and are behaving as a responsible adult in your parents house, all is cool there. And as for a partner.....well. Only when you are happy with you will others flock to you. no-one likes a grouch but everyone likes a jolly person, a smiler. A girl wil turn up when you least expect it; the more you look, the less likely it is to happen. A single man who is happy with himself is a very attractive proposition to a girl. It will happen. Keep smiling.
2006-12-01 14:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by super lucky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a loser. You may have had a setback with regard to moving back in with Mom and Dad, but you can make the determination to find out why that happened, and fix the problem.
As far as the Friend With Benefits thing, I just think you're a guy who prefers relationships to meaningless sex, and that makes you cool, not a loser. A woman of substance will pick up on that.
But in order for her to find you, you have to do the things that improve your self-esteem. Women respond to a man with confidence.
2006-12-01 14:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have 2 choices. Sit back, feel like a turd and be useless, OR you can go make changes in your life to better your future. Go back to school, get a job, start making attempts to meet new people as often as possible. My biggest recommendation is exercise. Get outside or into a gym and learn how to sweat and gain endorphins! This is the body's best medicine and once you do this, things will turn around for you, I promise!
2006-12-01 14:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a failure. You're young. You have plenty of time to get what you want out of life. Figure out what you want and try to get it. Give yourself a break. Everyone messes up and has to start over sometimes. I'm older than you and I'm in the process of starting over myself. Keep trying and you'll never be a failure.
2006-12-01 15:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by Beth T 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, try to find satisfaction in singlehood. Once you can do that, you'll never need a relationship again. Second, get a decent job, earn some money, get some extra education if you have to, and move the hell out. Lastly, promise yourself that you will NEVER LIVE LIKE THIS AGAIN.
2006-12-02 00:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
and a looser you Willl be until you start telling yourself otherwise! you are what you believe about yourself, psychologically if you see yourself as a winner and in charge your body wil i repeat will start taking action toward better and you will subconsciously start making better decisions. and a looser is only defined by you! in that some people are so happy living in a beat up camper cooking on a propane stove and r they loosers no! they are satisfied with their lives that way. looser is your own definition. not anybody Else's. i fully recommend this book....get a pen and write it down....9 principles for being in balance! by Wayne dyer. it is 12 bucks at Wall mart and worth 50 million. honestly even if you hate to read it will be sooooooooo great. hey. say this out loud...say it !!!!! I AM NOT A LOOSER . MY SITUATION DOES NOT DEFINE WHO I AM. I AM A WINNER AND STARTING RIGHT NOW I WILL GO FOR EVERY DREAM I HAVE BECAUSE I CAN! SPEAK IT OUT OF YOUR MOUTH BECAUSE WE ARE VERBAL HUMANS AND IF WE HEAR IT WE SUBCONSCIOUSLY START TO ACT TOWARD IT. SAY YOUR FAVORITE FOOD OR SONG OUT LOUD! NOW U WILL WANT5 TO EAT THAT FOOD OR HEAR THAT SONG AND YOU WILL NOT STOP UNTIL YOU GET THAT! WHY? BECAUSE IT ACTIVATED YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS. IT WORKS TRY IT IT IS AWESOME!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-01 14:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you're not a failure,just because you're go through a hard time.Take things easily everything will work out fine gradually.
2006-12-01 14:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Playa dont worry i think i would like to live with my foks and still have fun cause you dont have to pay anything and you dont need to start a family life just have fun you are only yong ones so have fun and dont worry think positive
2006-12-01 14:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are only a failure if you refuse to do nothing about a situation you are unhappy with.
2006-12-01 14:48:36 · answer #11 · answered by jdhs 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋