Does anyone else feel like this?

Question

..Like no matter how many hobbies you have or do you still feel that there is something missing in their lives? Please no God answers..

Answer 1

Try not to think about it! But maybe the whole God thing's not such a bad idea - You ever try it?

Answer 2

No, I honestly don't. I have almost everything I want: More-than-decent grades, a huge crowd of friends who love me, deep involvement in student government, and satisfaction with singlehood. Give me acceptance letters from the university and tech college that I applied to, throw in a nice apartment and a cute little hatchback, and I'll be set.

Answer 3

I feel that pretty frequently actually...I'm wondering for me if it's motherhood. Will I feel "complete" when I go through the pregnancy and birthing process....I admit when my best friend and I finally admitted we're in love and have now become a couple, that really changed something inside me too...I feel a little more grounded now.

Answer 4

Yes, some people call it depression.

There will always be *something* missing, but I guess the trick is to appreciate what you do have, and not focus so much on what you don't... Many questions you ask won't have answers to them, but you can't let it bug you too much.

Answer 5

Oh yeah -- last spring was the most recent time for me.

Here's what I've learned: When I have a lot of hobbies or activities and still feel that something's missing, I have learned to recognize what's going on.

It's an indication that I've made my hobbies, job etc. responsible for my satisfaction with life.

Which never works -- I've learned that I have to be responsible for my OWN satisfaction in my life. Can't make other people/things responsible for it... it's just me.

So for you, ask yourself these questions to get you moving in the right direction:

What's missing from your life? Can you put a finger on it -- is it a specific thing you're missing, or are you just (as I was) generally dissatisfied with the things you're doing? If so, try it on for size that what's missing is satisfaction from the things you do. But whatever it is, once you've identified it (or agreed that "satisfaction and fulfillment" is a good, general, all-purpose term), ask the next question.

What would your life look and feel like if this WASN'T missing? To stay with the satisfaction angle, think about what things give you satisfaction. For me it was working with people, making a difference in their lives, being involved in the community and enriching other people's lives. For you it might be anything else, but sit down and think it out. What is it for you? Then ask the next question.

What can you be responsible for in the area of having this show up in your life? Again, staying with satisfaction, what can you be responsible for as far as having fulfillment in your life? Sometimes it's as simple as acknowledging that it's there -- taking pleasure in playing with your kids, taking a moment to admire even something as mundane as a clean sink or an empty dishwasher (you can see how I motivate myself for household chores :-). But don't stop there -- keep asking what YOU can be responsible for, when it comes to a satisfying and fulfilling life. Then get ready for the next step...

What is one thing you can do today -- one action you can take -- that is different from the way you've been acting, and that is consistent with being responsible for your own satisfaction? Maybe it has to do with your hobby. Maybe it has to do with asking your spouse or partner for something. Maybe it's agreeing to work a booth at a show for your hobby. But as long as it's "outside the box," take that one step, today.

What's absolutely INCREDIBLE is that, as I said, I was in the same place you were back in March. So I had this conversation with my wife, who knows where I'm coming from. Within days I had received, out of the blue, an invitation to teach high-performance driving at a Teen Survival School -- my hobby and interests. It was a great day, a tremendous amount of fun, and I helped two young drivers learn not only a great amount of car control but also introduced them to my chosen sport and interest.

A week or so later I was asked to participate in a community theater project taking place over the summer. I ended up with the largest role in that play, and had an absolutely WONDERFUL time acting with, and for, my friends.

That in turn led to a contact with ANOTHER community theater group. Tonight is opening night for the first West Coast performance of Peter Grecian's adaptation of "A Christmas Story" (the "you'll shoot your eye out, kid" story). I'm in the largest role in that play, too -- I get to do the narration as adult Ralph.

And there've been a ton of other things -- I wrote my first road rally, I participated in neighborhood car shows this summer, and I'm in a new position at work on a product designed to help parents teach their children how to manage money and how to be financially responsible, thoughtful and empowered.

So... this was a MIRACULOUS year for me in that regard, because I am now satisfied and fulfilled in ways that were only dreams back in February and March.

I'm not getting a lot of sleep, but that's okay. :-)

So I encourage you to take on this inquiry. All the questions are important, but perhaps the most important one is the one about responsibility. As long as you're willing to let other people, other ideas, and other activities be responsible for your satisfaction, you'll never have it. Once you stand up and take responsibility for your own fulfillment... miracles start happening around you.

I wish you all the best, and let us know what kind of miraculous events start showing up in your life!

Answer 6

Start dating or buy a puppy. I don't like the god answers either. It especially irritates me to keep getting them in my E-mail

Answer 7

yeah it kinda bites but you just need to keep trying i was like thta and almost to the point of i wana die just keep trying

Answer 8

You alreadyknow the answer damn you!! Its only God. You just try.

Answer 9

yes its only your attitude so change it

Answer 10

GOD: "QUIT PLAYING WITH YOUR DINGEY"