SERIOUS MEN ONLY.......why do men cheat on their wives?????

Question

and if you guys think you have an excuse for it,,,, if there is an issue.....why dont you talk to your wife about it??? Instead of cheating?????

I KNOW both men and women cheat.....but I am interested in knowing why MEN cheat,,, I dont care to know why women do it. My husband (I hope) is not cheating on me,,, I was just curious.

NEXT,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,please.

Answer 1

Of course, we all know that while men and women are both capable of cheating, it's often the guys who have the biggest problem keeping their belts firmly buckled. And we all know that no matter who it's with, why it's done, or where the after-hours canoodling takes place, cheating is-most of the time-the ultimate relationship death sentence. But instead of dwelling on what happens after the cheating takes place, one of the ways to perhaps prevent infidelity is by knowing a little bit about why men stray. I'm not offering them as excuses, merely explanations as to what happens in that brain (and other body parts) of his-in hopes that you might be able to prevent it. Here, the top reasons why men cheat:

To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.


To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.


To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try ("I'm just not happy"), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.


To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.

Answer 2

I talked to my wife about my desire for intimacy (including sex) several times. She would only put out every three months. She hated me asking and begging so I began self gratifying myself when possible. After 8 years of this I decided to have an affair. I have a friend with benefits. This lady knows I am married and all she wants is sex and cuddling. I dont know why men cheat but I did because I was tired of having a non-physical relationship with the woman I wanted to.

Answer 3

It is called biology. For about 100 million years the male of the species ran around and created as many little proto-mammals as possible. Survival of the fittest/species. Now comes an upstart religion about 1000 years ago and says - Oh no, you can only have one person in your life, strictly to control people. Our society has jumped on that band wagon and you have men cheating on their significant others. What a surprise. Most other cultures in the world accept multiple people in marriages. If I have my info correct - orthodox Judaism says that you can have up to 4 wives and to have sex with your wives at least once per week. That is 16 times a month with 4 different women. That would keep the men out of the topless bars, but our society does not accept that. So you get to live with the results. It may not be nice, but that is the way it is.

Answer 4

Men fool around with other women because of how they feel about themselves when they are with the other person. Women who nag and harp on the past or who have serious insecurities that cause them to constantly be suspicious over every action and word in effect chase their man right into the arms of another woman. Being Sexually repressed can also send them somewhere else.

Answer 5

Why men cheat? I can't answer for all men but I will list a few reasons why I have and will always cheat on who ever I am with.
1. I love women
2. Bored with the sex
3. Bored with her
4. Shes to busy with her kids
5. Another woman made a pass at me
6. If I get caught she will forgive me anyway
7. My goal in life is to tag as many women as I can
8. Why not?
9. My friend brought his girlfriends friend along
10. I''m a man with a strong sex drive.

Answer 6

We can only cheat if there are women that cheat with us. If there are women willing to cheat nine times out of ten we will. it's really nothing personal towards the wife. it's like masturbating. or looking at porn. cheating starts on the inside.

Answer 7

for me , my choices were totally wrong, and I reallized that after the fact,because at the time my justifications were anger,resentment,I felt deprived, but through these emotions I was not sober or clean, I was abusing meth and alcohol, and taking alot of stupid advice from a so called friend, as far as discussing things with the spouse, I tried ,however her response was totally negative and there was no positive side, not to mention she wasn't clean or sober either,as a matter of fact I don't recall us ever fighting when we were clean and sober every bad thing that occurred during our marriage happened over drugs and alcohol and poor decisions, oh by the way no offense but I was married to an Aquriuas also and I'm a taurus.

Answer 8

While committing adultery is not the answer to marital issues, I do understand why some friends and acquaintances have had affairs in the past.

One man had an affair when his wife was going through a mental breakdown and was hospitalized. That doesn't make it right, but that was HIS reason.

Another friend had affairs since his wife was much younger and was a bit pampered as a daughter, but didn't want to meet his needs as a wife. Not correct , but that was his reasoning.

Another man who I graduated with had a few affairs since his wife stopped the honeymoon after the first year. He was very romantic, but after a years she returned to being a bit old fashioned. I don't condone either party for their decisions, but that is not for me to judge.

One man in town had an affair after his wife stopped taking the pill and "ordered" him to get a vasectomy. He was scared to death, but she refused the pill and "ordered" him to have this painful surgery. It is amazing what some people will talk about "out loud" after they have two glasses of wine at a party.

I don't say that any of them were right in doing this, because my Christian faith rebukes adultery...but I do understand why this did this.

Answer 9

For the same reasons that women cheat on their husbands.

Answer 10

there r so many reasons,if wife is not loving,if she dont have a better understanding,if they dont have discussion on issues,and if they r always far from each other,they have to share more time,have to go out,have to talk on issues,have to trust each other,and if u dont have these things then wife or husband both can cheat,and try to forgive,this is the main thing