My husband is in bootcamp and will be comming home for 2 weeks for Christmas. He wrote me and told me we may have some visitors comming back with him. I am not sure how I feel about having some strangers in my house for 2 weeks with my children. I understan those are his brothers but I am not sure if I would feel safe for myself and my children. Is this wrong that I feel weird for not opening my door to all of our soldiers?? Some one please help me out on this decision.
2006-12-01 06:34:11 · 17 answers · asked by bb77blueeyes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should be happy that he is going to let you bang his brothers. Thank you for taking care of our soldiers.
2006-12-01 06:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by dumbassimmons 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
This would be a matter of trusting your husband's judgement. Do you think he'd bring these people home if he thought they might be a threat? Of course you're going to feel uncomfortable with strangers in the house, that's a given. My husband is in the construction field and he works with "boomers" all the time and he has been known to bring a stranger home that he works with. I've never had a problem and they always appreciate a home cooked meal when they're away from their home.
I know it's not an easy decision but it's Christmas, if you trust your husband then I don't see anything wrong with having a few extra people.
2006-12-01 14:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by koral2800 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally understandable & it seems like you're torn between two decisions. You want to take them in because if they're coming back with him, they obviously don't have family to spend the holiday's with, & you want to have open arms, but then again, you don't know who they are, & can they really be trusted? How long has your husband been in bootcamp? If he's been there for a year or longer, then maybe these guys aren't bad people, but you can never be too safe.
If it was just one person, you might have a different perspective, but since its visitors, you're very hesitant. I don't blame you for feeling that way. I'd be pretty upset because I'd want to spend Christmas with my husband & kids alone, but sometimes you have to have opened arms to those who are less fortunate.
Talk to your husband, ask questions about these visitors, & most importantly, ask how long he's known them & why aren't they with their families. If he tells you they don't have anyone to come home to, try to accept them. Just keep an eye on your kids, & tell your husband that you're doing this for him. If by some chance you get creeped out in the first instant you meet them, tell your husband you're not comfortable & that they should get a hotel, but can still spend Christmas with you guys.
Good luck sweety!
2006-12-01 14:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by kchavee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel your husband has good judgement and you trust him that he would never put your family in harms way then you may be alittle over nervous. However if your husaband has a history of making bad choices then you need to have a discussion about the arrangments. This being said consider the circumstances do these soldiers not have families to go home to or they can't and this is their only alternative for a nice christmas. If your husband couldn't come home wouldn't you want someone to open their doors to him???
2006-12-01 14:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not wrong. You've spent months waiting for your husband to come home, now he's coming. And bringing Tom, Dick, and Harry with him.
In a way, I think it could be good, especially if these guys don't have family that they can see right now. In a way, it will be weird. There will be strange men in your house, eating your food, leaving wet towels on the floor, and leaving the toilet seat up.
If possible, talk to your husband. Tell him how you feel. If he's adamant about the guys coming with him, break out the extra blankets. This will be a good teaching opportunity for your kids, by showing them that it's better to help others than help yourself.
Merry Christmas!!
2006-12-01 14:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a mother understand your concern but this time you will just have to trust his judgement.
Perhaps these men have noone to spend Christmas with and opening his home to them is his way of sharing his blessings.
It may be inconvenient due to being unexpected but may end up being an incredible blessing for all of your family.
Keep cautious eye out but realize it is a two way street.....cannot become friends until you meet.
Hope ALL of you have a great Christmas!!!
2006-12-01 14:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so inconsiderate for your husband to bring home his buddies for Christmas. That is a family reunion since you have not seen him for quite sometime and you want him and your children to bond at least those two weeks. If he insist to bring them along maybe for a couple of days only . Maybe he just wants to show you off and his kids to his buddies. maybe you are a good cook and wants to show off. Talk to him about it. Tell him their families are also waiting for them to go home for Christmas.
2006-12-01 14:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is weird that the first thing you think of is the safety of your children. Were you molested as a child? You have to understand that these "strangers" to you, have been your husband's family to him. They are the ones who will look out for him and him for them. You should be so happy to welcome these people who may save your husbands life and most definitely will save his sanity.
2006-12-01 14:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, I dont care if youre Jesus in a cop uniform. Youre not staying in my house with my kids. Just bc they are in the military doesnt mean they arent freaks. See if you can put them up with other nearby friends or relatives or a motel and they can come for limited celebrations. You could even arrange or suggest other entertainments in your city. They would prolly prefer staying somewhere they could "cut loose" a little anyway. If that wont work, then go stay with your family or friends and let your hubby entertain his friends. your kids come first always. blessings.
2006-12-01 14:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would feel the same way to but i wouldn't let me kids out of my sight. but your husband have been away for a while and i do feel that he have been with those guys for a while that he know them. i don't think he would bring someone in your home that he knew would hurt you are your kids. just be thankful for your husband coming home because alots of people wont have their husband or son home for Christmas.
2006-12-01 14:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am happy to see that u r a very caring mother,well always welcome guests,they bring happiness and blessings,so plz dont be sad or worried,u know ur husband and sure he is a nice person,so if he is nice,his friends would also be nice ,and they wil have a good character,do1 thing that dont be friendly or frank with his friends,just stay in limit and dont try to be with them always,when ur husband is with u ,or he is at home then dont worry about anything u will feel protective in his presence,and serve guests well,cz when u will serve them well,they will have a good impression about u ,ur home and if u will react bad,they will get sad and ur husband will be dis-respected too,so dont worry n live happily,kiss ur sweet kids form my side,and give them my love,thanks always be happy n take good care,bye
2006-12-01 15:06:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋