Just wondered if anyone has really been badly affected by any break-ups they may have had? My recent one was 3 months ago and it's starting to affect my work and study, I really do need to start concentrating before I lose it all
2006-12-01 06:34:03 · 7 answers · asked by jjkjk h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've never really lost it before but after each breakup i get more paranoid about who im dating and i think every guy is going to hurt me like my exs.
2006-12-01 06:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by confussed... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i experienced the same thing as u are going through now, when my ex left me for another woman,i had difficulty consentrating, couldn't sleep, could find no pleasure in anything. i was in denial for the longest time, expecting him to walk through the door. and we would resume our life.but it didn't happen, you will need to get involved with other people,talk to others get a support system of trusted friends and family.get some spiritual support, as there is a power within u that is greater than what u now face. this is traumatic, but we must go through it to get better. we have to accept and see things exacly as they are, rather than how we think they should be.freedom from the pain comes from learning to relax, and remain aware. this is all a normal part of how we feel when we loose someone we love. but u will emerge from this alot stronger, and with alot more wisdom than when u went in it. we must experience dark nights, challenges, struggles,and tests, to the road to feeling better about it. just something we have to pass through sometimes, and it does hurt. i had a very bad upset, but emerged a different person, a better person. although it was not possibble to reconcile, or ever speak to him again, i am now pretty much at piece with it today.
2006-12-01 11:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...it's hard to concertrate on anything when going through that kind of pain.
I found myself after one break asking God to take away the pain no matter what the consequinces. It's hard but the pain will eventually start to fade. Be around your true friends as much as you can. Ones that can help you by keeping your mind off of things rather than the ones that just say "man, just get over her/him. Don't be stupid" cuz uh....that doesn't help at all to be around that kind of advice. They obviously don't realize how bad you hurt.
Time heals....moving on evenually helps.
2006-12-01 06:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you bet. I prayed to God to let me die after my husband left (24 years of marriage). It affected every single area of my life. On the bright side, honey, it does get better and I am so thankful that God said "no". Good luck to you and let me know how you feel. Get counseling and talk to your friends. It will help.
2006-12-01 06:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH YEAH, IT CAN EFFECT EVERYTHING. ITS SO HARD TO HOLD IT TOGETHER SOMETIMES.. BUT YOU HAVE TO.
2006-12-01 07:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not me
2006-12-01 06:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by guRl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah.
2006-12-01 06:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋