i recently told my bestfriend that i loved him but he didnt return the feelings. he's in love with his ex, not me. ive decided to end our friendship. i wasnt mean about it, i just told him i couldnt be friends with him because i want more than what he wants. am i doing the right thing?
2006-12-01 06:04:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would still be friends
2006-12-01 06:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by osb2904 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can know if it's the right thing to do, in your gut that is. If you honestly can't handle the thought of not having him romantically, then I would say you have done the right thing.
Personally, even if they don't have the same feelings in return, why lose a friend over it. We can't help who we like, and if we were to throw away a friend every time they didn't have the same feelings as us then we would be left alone.
For damage control if you would like to get him back as a friend, I would suggest talking to him and tell him you would rather him be a part of your life than not be in it at all. There's a reason you fell for him, and that reason is a part of your friendship and your life. You would have just cut out a major portion of your life with that.
Go with what your gut tells you, because our opinions are just that...opinions. You'll know if you did the right thing, but knowing you did the wrong thing...well when we notice that, it's usually too late.
2006-12-01 14:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by djkristyleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A best friend is what??.....A BEST FRIEND. You have a friendship that nothing should come in between. Just because you can turn off the friendship doesn't mean you can turn off the feelings for him. Even if he doesn't love you at that extent, but he loves you as a BEST FRIEND... hey and you never know, maybe he'll realize that you are the one he's been looking for this whole time!
2006-12-01 14:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by MARJ213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the surface, hearing from somebody that you no longer want to be friends hurts. I understand how you feel, but I don't think most people would be this "up front" about it. What you are doing is okay, but I'm not sure I would have said it to him. Instead, were I in your shoes, I would have just stepped back some and starting hanging out with other people more. I suspect eventually he would notice and would probably also understand why.
2006-12-01 14:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should still be friends. Who knows, maybe later on things could work out. But its crazy to mess up a good friendship over something like this. Friends are what makes the world go around!!
2006-12-01 14:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by ready2rumble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl friend you were right to tell him how you feel about him but you are wrong for ending the friendship you have to learn to respect people's wants, needs and also there belives come on he is your best friend you can advise and help him to try and get over his ex-girl friend and try to show him the good and positive side of you. And then he will gave you a answer belive me.
love dell.
2006-12-01 14:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by dell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is very important! Stay friends with him! It is better then sitting in a corner thinking to yourself about all these things you could have done differently. Be his friend....deep down...I am inlove with my bestfriend to...I dont know if he knows it but I would never want to give up my friendship with him if he were to be told my thoughts...
2006-12-01 14:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was faced with a similar situation before and it was best for me to end the friendship as well. Do what you need to do for you, your life will go on. Just don't have any regrets. There's nothing wrong with your decision, sometimes it's easier to just not have the person around.
2006-12-01 14:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think u should still be friends with him cause you too are suppose to be best friends that shouldn't stop yor friendship with him.I am in a similiar sitution as you but i don't think i'll make a move on him i'll just give him some hints and wait till he gets it.you should have done that.
2006-12-01 14:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by LaToya T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You couldn't be that good of friends ... if you're willing to give it up because you can't make it something it's not.
He sounds like a good guy to me ... he could have become involved with you on a physical level ... You know just to touch you there ... even though he knew it wasn't right. Lots of guys do that. I wish your best friend good luck and Godspeed with his ex.
2006-12-01 14:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might need some space right now because it would be hard to be around him since he don't share your feelings. But I think eventually you should try to be friends again.
2006-12-01 14:08:14 · answer #11 · answered by Tre2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋