6 months ago I got to a breaking point with my husband. We had some pretty big issues around his depression. I booked a trip away and made the bad choice of inviting his mother because he is raising my son's cousin. We needed time away and I thought him having his best bud would be great for him and give us a chance to sort through some issues. I had to work the morning we were leaving and ran to the office and told them I would meet them in an hour. I called, was 5 minutes late, still had a client on the phone and my MIL ran out to my car and started yelling and cursing me. I backed out of my driveway to drive around the block and my MIL psycho dialed me. When I got back to the house, they had left, and I was mad. Called husband and he was cantancerous, apologized for the extra 10, MIL grabs the phone and tells me to pack and get out of my own house! It is MY house. In front of MY son. Big fight ensues and I end up picking up a gf and leaving for the weekend on my own. TBC
2006-12-01 05:33:31 · 9 answers · asked by donewiththismess 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know this is long. Whilst I am gone, my MIL tell my husband that she didn't want to tell him this, but I have been seeing someone else for a long time. LIAR. I have never cheated and am not cut that way. I stay gone for 2 weeks, he sends his mother home that day, has a complete break down, goes to see a doc, we get into therapy and now we're ok and back on track. Doing well. I cannot forgive his mother. She has not even tried to apologize. She connives and lies. Tells my son that he can come and live with them if he doesnt like our rules. When she doesnt see our son, we are keeping him from her when we send him to see her, she breaks all our rules and tells everyone we just want a babysitter. So, no Thanksgiving with them this year and I have no desire to be around the Xmas. Any advice...apologies for the length.
2006-12-01 05:37:19 · update #1
Are you sure we aren't married to the same man? My ML is just as evil. I have learned that the only way to beat her is to bust her out everytime she lies. My ML lies constantly. Since I have began proving her as a liar it is harder for my husband to believe her when she comes to him with her wild tales about me & who I'm sleeping with. I hope your situation works out like mine has so far. I have to warn you, though, it will probably get worse before it gets better. It's hard to open the eyes of a mama's boy.
2006-12-01 05:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by tsnlajmdc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have in-laws like that, too (well, FUTURE in-laws, since I'm still engaged). I just ignore them, and so does my fiance. It's good that he's on your side so that you can be a united front when your mother-in-law tries something like this again. I think the in-laws do this sort of thing for attention. If there's no drama, they have to create some. If they feel that they no longer have control over their child, they have to do something that makes them feel in control. That's fine, though, because you have your husband, and if he's willing to take your side over theirs, you must be doing something right. Whenever your mother-in-law has another one of these delusional fits, recognize it as such and feel sorry for her that she doesn't have much more sense or decency to control herself. You did the right thing to leave for a little while - it wasn't your fault, but after something traumatic like that, it's good to take a little time off to sort through the emotional damage that's been done. When you return, just try and go on with your life, and limit the amount of contact she has with your children, since she will probably do something like this to them someday, too. Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-01 05:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I would not be letting her see my son without supervision. Secondly this is for your husband to decide...so sit him down and calmly talk about things. It sounds like as hard as it may be for him to do that contact with her should be kept to a minimum especially since she is so selfish as to CAUSE her own child (him) pain by telling him that you had cheated. Knowing that he had depression...she may have caused him to suicide...thats just not on. Write all of this down and see what he says. It is hard for him to be caught in the middle as he loves you both but he has to know that she is toxic and things cant go on as they are. Document every phone call, email, letter, incident and if she persists after you distance yourself get a restraining order on her. If he doesnt see it as it is and is still making excuses for her perhaps for you and your son's peace of mind you should give her what she wants...your husband. Good luck.
2006-12-01 05:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whew!....Wow! I thought my In-Law drama was bad! Well dear - You can not pick your family or in laws! However...you can chose to tell them to stay out of your face, house & life! I did because his mother is the Anti-Christ! Actually she is worse and may be related to your Mother in Law! anyway...If that doesn't work then you have no choice but to kill her! J/K!! Good Luck!
2006-12-01 05:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg....are you my long lost sister?? she sounds like my mother!!
what a B***H!!!
Look, what really matters is how your husband is handling it. if he believes you, that is what matters. he didn't kick you out of the house. (how DO you kick someone out of a house you don't live in???) fix what you and your husband have together. everything else doesn't matter. if you two love each other, then you have a foundation.
and then dream of delicious ways for her to die. and smile.
2006-12-01 05:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go away for a Xmas holiday far far away from the crazy woman.
2006-12-01 05:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Isabelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that much happen and your still talk to her listen you need to cut everything with her and stop sendimg your son there she could talk bad about you with your son and thank god no thank giving with her if i were you i would leave her son for letting her in my house ever again
2006-12-01 05:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you move to another state far far away? You and your husband have to get away from that crazy woman.
2006-12-01 06:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...that is too much drama for me to handle. I don't think I could take it, I wish I had some advice, but I don't think you are gonna leave that mess.
2006-12-01 05:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
simply ignore her---do not accept her phone calls
2006-12-01 05:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋