my husband and i got married in july, we are going to be new business owners sometime in the beginning of next year. none of his family live in the united states and we can't leave the country until we go through the whole process of getting his papers straight( he is from france) he thinks we should wait until he gets his papers so we can go see his family. i don't think so because they can come see us.
2006-12-01 05:32:44 · 17 answers · asked by whitystratt 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You already have too much going on for you.
2006-12-01 05:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If going to see his parents is important to him you should think of whether or not sacrificing for him is important to you. You also need to consider whether or not the two of you feel that you are financially, spiritually, mentally, and physically ready to start a family. Before you bring a child into the world the two of you should have a serious conversation. Be sure that you have the same ideas on what you want to teach your children. Make sure you have the same understandings and beliefs (however, this probably should have been done before marriage). Just ensure that the two of you are ready and that you have a complete understanding of how you will raise your children together. You also need to keep in mind that the two of you are in the process of building a business. It may be in your best interest to wait until that is no longer your main focus, because a child will be very time consuming.
2006-12-01 05:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by mizztrinidad301 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly no human being is ever really waiting. i imagine my proper suggestion should be to imagine about the position you're in life, the position you want to be, what you want to do as self sustaining adults, and how you imagine parenting matches into your plans. also ascertain you've an excellent type of help from family individuals and associates. did you comprehend an excellent type of alternative couples with little ones? For the most area they're the purely associates that you will be putting out with when you've a baby. have you ever gotten all of your partying out of ways? you shouldn't be out on the bars on your twenty first birthday? Is there everywhere unique you should want to shuttle in the previous you've a baby? Are you going to be a unmarried mommy a majority of the time at the same time as he's away interior the military? who's going to face up at nighttime with the baby? Having little ones really does positioned on you out. Is there someone you've faith to observe your baby so for you to take a sleep or do a touch abode paintings? Daycare runs about $three hundred-$four hundred a week how does that fit into your funds? Having a baby is a huge accountability. that's fantastic, notwithstanding that's absolutely no cat or puppy. you look like you attempt to weigh the specialists and cons so that you deserve a pat on the again there. I wish you an excellent type of success on your selection making. My own suggestion should be to party and shuttle for yet another 3 or 4 years and then try for that infant. i'm 25 i think like i have finished extra interior the perfect few years than maximum human beings will ever do in a life time. I knew i replaced into waiting to have a baby because i replaced into sick partying and vacationing on a whim. i replaced into waiting to quiet down and that i'm very pleased with the alternative. waiting a pair years will purely make you an exceptional couple.
2016-10-16 11:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it some time you are only 20 you have plenty of time and it sounds like you already have enough on your plate. It probably is a good idea to wait until your husband has his paperwork straightened out it could cause problems farther down the line. And enjoy your new life as a married woman. I got pregnant right away after getting married and as much as I love our daughter it would have been nice to just be us for a while.
2006-12-01 05:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by lauren g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait! wait until you both want it. You should not be selfish and have a kid just because you want it, you just got married. See how you guys get along as newlyweds. You wouldn't want to rush into things. It is different to be married and living together. You get to know someone on a different level, make sure this arrangement works out than go to the next level.
2006-12-01 05:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
having a baby while getting ready to become business owners is going to be extremely difficult.Think of the business adventure as a 'baby'. It will need your time and money,but no nasty diapers to change! :) Yeah, his family should visit if they have papers in order.It could take some time for his papers to get completely straightenend out. Congrats. on your new begining!
2006-12-01 05:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
babies never fix things,
if you read your narrative you said that he wants to wait. but, YOU want a baby. regardless of what you husband wants and feels, it is all about YOU and YOUR WANTS......
Grow up, wait, get things going, see his folks, take time to be a couple enjoy each other, because a baby will change everything. a marriage is also about trust and respect.
i'll say, when they finally do make a male birth control pill it will be about time. then men can take the pill and not worry about an 'accident' and men can be in on the planning of having a baby.
2006-12-01 05:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by mhp_wizo_93_418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life as you know it changes dramatically after a baby, there is no harm in waiting a few years before you have any.
2006-12-01 05:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by SHEILA N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you are seeking support for your position from strangers. talk to your hubby about why it is important for you to meet his family before a baby. can they afford to come here?
such trips are very expensive. maybe he's using that as an excuse because he's not ready for a baby.
2006-12-01 05:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best if both parties agree on when to have the baby. Having one parent not support the decision would add undue strain on the relationship.
That's my opinion...
2006-12-01 05:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start trying, some people it can take a while to get pregnant, then you have to carry the baby for 40 weeks, I think that will be sufficient time.
2006-12-01 05:36:00 · answer #11 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋