I used to date someone that was involved with smoking pot occasionaly. I never like pot but I looked at it as like drinking occasionly. He had just gotten out of a relationship so I thought he would do it to relieve stress. So I let him and I wanted him to like like me so I did it occasionly with him. (since his ex did it all the time with him) Then....after 3 months it seemed that was all he LOVED to do. Every day look foward to it. Before work, after work (sports, gymnastics, instructor), before going to eat at a restaurant, always had a little bit in a jar in his car so that he could do it while driving -OH and smoking up before going into a movie theater. I felt like everytime I talked to him about cutting down he never wanted to compromise. I told him I can not do it and broke it off. He made me feel guilty like I was suppose to help him cut down. Was he doing it too much? Should I have helped him? He would not listen and wanted to do it more!
2006-12-01 05:29:50 · 10 answers · asked by justaquestion 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
He is an addict
And yes - I dont care who says youc ant - YOU CAN be addicted to mary jane.
It ruins lives.
I have seen it.
putting pot before relationships.
sad
How could you have helped?
I have tired to help someone for 5 years
And nothing
they quit for one week and it was great. They went straight back to it though.
They have to do it on their own and for themselves.
Maybe he will see what he missed out on- YOU.
2006-12-01 06:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a very similar situation. I realized one day that he was bringing me down with him. You sound like you are way to good for that. Do not feel responsible to help him quit as he will never quit unless he wants to himself. I deal with many forms of drug use on a daily basis w/ friends and family, and I have tried everything to help them stop...no luck yet, unfortunately. You're better off just moving on and finding someone that has more in common with you.
2006-12-01 05:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by SpicyK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've seen this happen to people too. they become addicted to it. acting like it was your responsibility to make him cut down and waiting for you to do all the work to help him do that might have been his way of saying he doesn't think he can. i don't like pot, myself. i know it's considered a very mild drug. my parents do it all the time and i really resent them for doing it while i was growing up. if not for any kind of chemical reaction resulting in mood alteration, what happens is what you said: people can become addicted to it and less and less matters to them except for the pot. that becomes vitally important. it does cause relationships to suffer. so, i think doing it at all is doing it too much. should you have helped him? i don't know if you could have. he seemed to want to fight you about it. and, like with anything else, people can't be helped if they don't want to be helped and don't want to put forth the effort they need to to change. don't feel guilty about this. it wasn't your fault.
2006-12-01 05:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's not something you want to be around, than you shouldn't. It is not your responsibility to make him quit. You shouldn't feel guilty at all. He is addicted and it will take him really wanting to quit to be able to. He probably hardly has money either since he has to buy weed all the time if he smokes that much.
2006-12-01 06:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy had a major problem,because me and my fellow pot heads would never smoke that much. He broke the cardinal rule of pot heads- that is Pusssy before weed.
2006-12-01 05:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only steady relationship a full-time stoner like that has is with the Oreo shelf at the supermarket.
2006-12-01 05:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by sakicfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you have to decide what the deal breaker is for you, and it seems you did. My boyfriend of four years is a habitual smoker, which I don't agree with for health reasons. As for myself I don't smoke or drink. But for me it's not a deal breaker as long as he plays by ground rules, ie. I don't want to see it smell it or hear about it.
2006-12-01 05:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sublette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like he was into it pretty hard, anyways you can't make them quit. They have to want to quit or have some small desire to want to cut down even, did he?
2006-12-01 05:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by dtiplov 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you moved on. He will never have a very good job. He will be lazy and have a negative attitude for as long as he does it.
2006-12-01 05:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could not help him. You could have gone to jail with him.
2006-12-01 06:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋