A year and a half ago I was engaged to this beautiful girl, smart, classy, supportive... she encouraged me to finish my studies when I was thinking of quitting, she encouraged me to keep struggling, we had a lot of projects for the future, etc.
But then the relationship started to turn sour... there wasn't so much chemistry between us anymore, and before I could understand what was going on, she was telling me that she "needed time" and that she "was having second thoughts". We ended up with no marriage, eventually with us breaking up and her moving to another town.
Now I've got my university title, I've got a sucessful job like I've always dreamed of... but I'm not with her... I don't have the house in the countryside... nor the puppies and children we always dreamed of.
Why is it that always something is missing to be happy? Why can't I just get over it?
2006-12-01 05:22:29 · 15 answers · asked by Extreme Ways 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh dear Frostsabr you have your education and a good life ahead of you so do not be so down hearted. The girl was special and she did come into your life for a purpose and that purpose was to encourage you. Whatever the reason was that she felt she had to move on you may never understand. There is a girl somewhere out there waiting to have home in the countryside with you and the puppies and children to love I have spent a great deal of my life missing that something. Don't you even think about living your life that way. Find a place to build your home and search for that some one that you want to love and hold and spend your life with. Be careful who you choose and don't rush things. It is best that she did not leave after you had gotten the home the puppies and children. You would have been hurt much worse. Someone like you should be able to find that special person that you desire to fill up the empty places in your life. Smile and look for her and be happy. Keep on dreaming your dreams. Remember the joy you find in live is more important then those things-don't ever forget.
2006-12-01 05:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is how to get back on your feet after a bad break up. First you need to know it was better she left now than leave you later with real commitments on the line. Be thankful that you didn't end up with someone not meant for you.
If it feels like something is missing , maybe you're just lonely. Everyone needs someone to share life with. The problem is finding the one that will stick through EVERYTHING. That's real love! Choosing to love someone when you just don't feel like it.
Try working on liking who you are and that will eventually bring that special person to you. Women are attracted to confident male figures....it's natural. Realize there are few things you can do to change your outward appearances but there are thousands of ways to broaden the inner self! Have fun learning about YOU first and don't look for her....she'll find you.
Also try to remember that happiness is found in the simple things in life. Go for a walk and count your blessings. You're not alone. Nichole
2006-12-01 06:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by nickleannette 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For every door that closes, another opens. The dream is not gone. It will only be lost if you let it go. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. You may still get what you want but it may not be with your ex. Your right, there is always something in life brings us down somehow. You need to rise above it and stay strong and focused. Who knows, you may meet the girl of your dreams tomorrow. Be prepared. Let the baggage go!
2006-12-01 05:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesn't have to be with that particular girl, could be with someone else that u realiaze your dreams. things happen for a reason that we can't always figure out. if she truly loved u as u did her, she would never have left u in the first place. it is never good or easy to go back in a relationship that is in our past, because the same problems as we had before will always reserface. and time changes things, she has mostlikely moved on and is with someone else. happiness can be found only within ourselves, another person cannot be your source of happiness, it lies within you. someone else will come along in your life that u can love and experience these same things with, u miss what it could have been with her, but what could have been wasn't for some reason, and i find the universe gives us exacly who we need, if we will just be patient and believe and have hope. the answer does not lie in your past.
2006-12-02 11:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still have soul ties with this girl. she hs moved on but you are still dreaming of her. You will find another woman to love and you will know when the right one comes along. Let go the other one. Shes not coming back!
If you are a believer in God, pray for the type of person you want and be specific. Describe her to God, eye colour, hair colour, personality everything. My best friend did that with her husband and she got the man she asked for. You wont get utmost perfection, because that we know does not exist, but you will find a person who will really love you for who you are. Trust God to help you. He will.
2006-12-01 05:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was smart and honest enough not to ruin your career and give you a divorce perhaps even with little people involved.
You will find someone else who fits that jigsaw puzzle you dream of. You're ready to have and support a family now - go wife hunting. Your dream is just round the corner.
2006-12-01 05:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Isabelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 18:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by mudsir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. Really I dont. Something 'missing' from your life is a 'goal' to reach. People need goals to move forward in life. Perhaps you should try to rekindle the relationship if she seems receptive and communicative with you.
But I congradulate her in pushing you to become a man. Sounds like she did a great job. ;) Peace.
2006-12-01 05:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you had everything you ever wanted, you would stop working so hard. that's what life is about. working toward getting what it would take to make you happy. yeah, you aren't going to be with her. looks like she's missing out, she was the one that initiated the breakup. when the time is right you will find someone that you can share that dream with. just keep working.
2006-12-01 05:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you got so busy that you left her alone try to get a hold on her if not move on it take time for everything and you will find your dream girl with puppies and your kids soon and have some fate
2006-12-01 05:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋