Neither of my parents act happy for me that i got accepted to the college i applyed for...basiclly because they know that bc i am furthering my school education they will have to pay childsupport on me while im still in school.....i dont know what to think...shouldn't they be happy for me or proud of me for this accomplishment? neither of my parents graduated high school....
2006-12-01 05:10:32 · 9 answers · asked by kycat0744 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Let them know that if you get a college education, you will be in a much better position to help them when they are old.
Or you can just tell them to stop being so selfish.
2006-12-01 06:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ranto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if they are necessarily disappointed that you are attending. They are most likely very proud of you. However, if neither one of them graduated HS then I'm assuming that they're joint income is not all that great. They may be more concerned with disappointing you. College can be very expensive, especially for families that live paycheck to paycheck or families that have not prepared for it. My guess is that there is a huge financial responsiblity associated with this accomplishment. While they might be able to afford it for a short term, being able to finish paying for everything is quite different.
Sit down and talk with your parents, let them know that you are a bit "down" because they aren't as excited about this as you are. Then acknowledge that this is a huge financial burden you've placed upon them (after all, parents do all they can) and that you don't expect them to do everthing. Talk about all your options for financial aid, and federal grants. Do a little research and present that to them as well. Then everyone can figure out exaclty what the family budget allows for you to attend school, and what our lacking. Let them know that you don't necessarily want them to foot the bill 100%, but that you would like their support 100%.
Good luck, and congratulations.
2006-12-01 13:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by wldathrt77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that your parents are not supporting your decision to further your education. Do you think that maybe on some level they are a little jealous? I would think that they would be happy you are bettering your life, but maybe they think you will act like you are too good for them or better than them. I think they are letting their pride get in the way. They should be very proud. Congratulations.
2006-12-01 13:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by NJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should be proud of you! but they might not be thinking of the long-term that you are. A college education will help you in the long run and you'll likely make more money and in turn be able to support them when they are older. Even if they don't seem happy, don't let this get you down.
2006-12-01 13:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents did not say... "why are you going to college we don't want to pay child support for you" , you might be speculating. They might be thinking that you got to do something that they never dreamed of doing, it might be painful for them because they might be having regrets. Either way, I believe that children must always do one or more things greater than their parents for the growth and success of your family for generations to come. Even though they might not be proud of you now, because of "their fear of success" you have all the more reason to make then understand and respect you and your need for success. There goal for you might have been only to graduate high school because that is as far as their imagination could have taken them.
2006-12-01 13:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by MTB11226 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support? What child support? After 18 they are not 'required' to pay anything. If there was a divorce there might be something in the agreement.
Or are you asking them to foot the bill for college?
2006-12-01 13:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Aggie80 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last sentence about not graduated high school explained everything. Yes, it is about financial worries...but they do student loans for that.
Your parents sound like they have the morals and brains of a hillbilly.
2006-12-01 13:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit rubbish of them, yes.
If things are a big tight then maybe they were budgeting on you getting a job after school, so it does make sense and you need to be sensitive to that.
But from me - WELL DONE ON GETTING INTO COLLEGE you go girl, get brainy and then get a fabulous job!!
2006-12-01 13:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by rchlbsxy2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... that's sad... of course they should be happy and glad to make a sacrifice for their daughter who has decided to further her education! i guess they don't know the value of education..
2006-12-01 13:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by JeWel in the MakE! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋