i've been seeing this guy for 6 months and there had been soo much drama and rumors about both of us to where he can't take it anymore his job is already stressful (marine drill instructor) and he's tired of the craziness.....i ignored everyone when they talked about him he did the same until last night he said that it will be too hard for us to keep our relationship because of all the drama.....what should i do? i feel really bad that people did this to us. we really enjoy each other and i stopped talking to alot of people becuase of this mostly females that i work with were doing this but he said it still won't work someone else will try something again. How can I convince him to continue our relationship? the main people doing this to us are out of the picture.
2006-12-01 04:56:19 · 18 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe the main people or out of the picture but until you put a stop to them telling stuff there going to keep it up. Probly what the problem is there jealous. If this is a good relationship i would go to the people and talk to them and tell them you dont want to hear anything else.there is no since in throwing away a good relationship over people that cant keep there mouths shut
2006-12-01 05:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by sue w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there Hun, and let me tell u people are mean and inconsiderate when it comes to that. But make sure u have a serious talk with him confirming that those people are out of the picture and ask him if he loves u enough to be together, but remember that it was alot of drama for so little time. But if he is considerate about the matter you guys can give it a try, make sure that if someone talks about u two, stop them dead in their tracks, dont ignore them because they wont go away. I think that might have been one of ur mistakes.
Me and my boyfriend split off after 2 years, we couldnt take the rumors and people where looking at us wrong everytime we where together. We where good people, we loved each other but we didnt stand up for ourselves.
Hope u too have a chance. Take care and good luck.
2006-12-01 13:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon i totally know where you're coming from. this is what i wish i would have done:
~sit down with him and tell him that nothing anyone does or says will keep you from him
~tell the people causing the drama that they're interferring with your happiness and if they really cared about you two they would stop and leave you alone
~tell the people causing drama that don't care about you two to go to hell.
~tell each other everytime someone tells you something about the other person; when you hear something about someone else, going straight to the source will alwayz cut back on the drama.
~make sure he knows that you're there for him when ever he needs some relief from the pressure
~make sure you talk to each other; if you have a problem, don't keep it a secret.
hope this goes better for you than it did 4 me-
<3, nanerz
2006-12-01 13:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by nanerz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I couldn't understand from your question, what kind of interference it is and who are the people. I know from personal experience, that it cannot be that all people see things wrong, just you right, therefore you should listen carefuly to your friends and family opinion and do not dismiss their fears so fast. And again, you mentioned that you stopped talking to many people - who are they? It wouldn't be the best sign if you stopped talking to people you got on well before you met this guy. On the other hand, if these people don't really know you and the guy, who cares, what they say!
2006-12-01 13:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sauluzia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one discusses their personal life and troubles with others they do tend to get involved when they shouldn't. The best policy is to not discuss these things with friends and family. If you are having a problem with your relationship, you should discuss it with your mate rather than getting outsiders involved.
It is possible he has other reasons for wanting to terminate the relationship. It may be easier for him to tell you the drama and interference is the reason rather than telling you the real one.
2006-12-01 13:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by tootsie1115 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the main people are out of the picture then why is there still drama?
You can't convince a person to stay in a relationship.
But hey, maybe you two could PRETEND to breakup, and see if the drama is still happening. Then see WHO is trying to move in on him and catch them.
2006-12-01 12:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Cynthia 604 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't convince him, he's a grown man who is able to make his own decision. If he believes it won't work, it won't. If he's tired of the drama, he's tired. If you truly care about him, you will respect his decision and let it go.
2006-12-01 12:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give a big F YOU to everyone! people used to always interfere with me and my now husband.... but we eventually started loving to piss these people off.... so we would! once we started doing that everyone left us alone. their main goal in life seemed to be to keep us from getting married..... guess it didnt work huh? good luck and i know you can make it if ya'll just diregard these jealous and obnoxious people! tell him that it will work out and get easier, you just have to give it time!
2006-12-01 13:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by heaven-sin-t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, people don't just randomly talk smack and conspire to ruin your life. There must be something else that you aren't saying, or he isn't telling you. I say you let it go and look for a relationship that doensn't take some much effort just be happy.
2006-12-01 12:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well....both of you must know what are you priorities.....if u people like each other so much....so y is that u care about the world.....just let tehm say what they want to...just keep the attitude "i don't care a damn"......tell ur frend that y he is so much concerned about the people...if he has you...de y is dat bloody world matters to him so much....u should let nybody to interfere or play with urlife...its ur life keep it large....sometiems things to go out of ur hands...but stop talking is not just the solution...u cant give ur remote control to nyone...sumone says nything nd u keep wondering bout it....like sumone presses a botton of ur repmte..nd changes ur mood or attitude 2wards dis life.....just dont care bout da world....people dont have nothing to do...just makin a mess out of ur life,,,,,because in dis selfish world noone wants you to be happy...nd dont let dat happen...its ur life.....be happyy....!!!nd try to convince him,.....he'll definitely understand you.....!!!!
2006-12-01 13:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋