I am in a relation with a man who has been divorced since 5 years....
he is still hurt but in the same time he loves me ????
is this possible? or he is just filling the empty emotional space ???
2006-12-01 04:47:19 · 16 answers · asked by jaja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is still hurt by his ex wife then he needs to get over her before he can truly be with you. Take some space from him and tell him you can not be with him until he is over her.
2006-12-01 04:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda in the same situation. If I were you, I would have a talk with him. I think he just doesn't want to be alone. I am with a girl that I say that I love, but still think about a girl that I was with 3 years ago. I hate to say it, but I think he needs to be alone for a while. You didn't specify how long you have been with him. If you just started the relationship, I think you need to tell him that it's over with the other person, and you need to know if he truly loves you or not. If he has been wtih you for a long time already, I think he needs to be alone for a little longer to figure out if he really loves you or not. Good luck. just remember, there are many other men out there, are a lot of them are the same as the one you are with. Not too much of a loss. I'm trying to get my girlfriend to realize this (even though I am an unusual character)
2006-12-01 12:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing someone that you have loved for a long time and has been such a big part of your life can be devastating. I think a part of that person will always love the person they divorced and miss them a little bit. However, I do think it is very possible to still miss the other person or be in pain, but move on to love someone new. Just be open and honest with the guy and hope he does the same with you. Tell him your concerns and listen whole heartedly to his answer. Best thing you can do for a relationship.
2006-12-01 12:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Schnibbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still hurt by a divorce that happened 5 years ago then maybe you and him need to sit down and talk about what's going on. Although it takes time to mend a broken heart what he is going thru shouldn't be interferring with the relationship you and him are currently in. You need to make sure he is over that other person if not yo may just be the rebound.
Good Luck!
2006-12-01 12:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is still hurt after all this time, there is probably some hidden resentment that needs to be dealt with between the x and him. sometimes we tend to get into another relationship hoping this will be the answer for the pain to go away. the only thing that will help is for him to accept the divorce and make amends if needed to the x and get on with life.
2006-12-01 12:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by 4hym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can still love you but that does not take from the fact that he is still emotionally preoccupied with his previous relationship.
5years is a long time to still be dealing with hurt from a previous marriage. Are you sure you can maintain an intimate relationship with a man that does not let go of his past that easily?
2006-12-01 12:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he always going to be hurt and his divorce because that takes away from a person. those are feelings inside of "him" you can't control. now if hes always talking about it threes something wrong. after 5 yrs he had time to sort a lot of his trust issues and feelings in order. did you get with him right after his divorce? if so that's not good. a person needs time to heal. after my first marriage it took me 6 yrs to fall in love again, I dated before I fall in love again. a person needs time when its your first marriage. someone like me am on second marriage and divorcing and next year I'll be marry again. after awhile it gets easy to Dael with your mix emotions. and that man had no time to heal you need to step aside and let him.
2006-12-01 13:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you honey!!! I dont know if there is children
but it takes a long time to get over the hurt,,maybe never..
You can always forgive,but you never forget!!
Love what you have and while you can my dear. Life is to short!
2006-12-01 13:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by blcrshr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is still possible to love one person and still be hurt by what the other did to him. reassure him that you love him (if you do) and that you will never break his heart. five years is a long time so he'll be over it soon
2006-12-01 12:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible some times we must be hurt to be Happy
Good Luck.
2006-12-01 12:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Paz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋