my wife is a good woman and up until about 15 months ago she was sweet now she always accuses me of cheating with friends and having affaies with anybody that waves at me now a women can to me like a godsend and is very nice and sweet what should i do to be happy again
2006-12-01 04:44:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHAT THE HELL??????????
2006-12-01 04:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by NONE OF UR BIZ!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If...if...you are not giving her any reason to believe that there is even a possibility that you could be cheating...then you two need to see a counselor. People will tell you she's probably cheating and that's why she's acting the way she is. That's possible, but don't jump to any conclusions.
I don't know how old your wife is, but if she is over 40, could she be going through the beginning stages of menopause? When a woman goes through these changes, her hormones are going crazy and they can make her crazy! Really. One minute they are fine and the next they want you dead. It's not their fault or yours. If this is a possibility, see that she sees her doctor soon. Go with her. Be supportive. Without your wife hearing, mention to the doctor that she's been acting strange and seems very angry and is always jumping to the wrong conclusions about things. Tell the doctor you are worried she might be depressed or that something else might be going on. You might have to call ahead of time and talk to the nurse and ask her to relay the message. This way the doctor will be able to tailor the questions he asks your wife to find out if it could be depression or hormonal imbalance. Then they will know how to help her. Don't accuse your wife of being crazy in front of her or anyone else! (Not if you value your life!)
Is there any other stresses in her life that could be causing her to be depressed? Seeing a doctor in conjunction with a counselor will ensure that everything possible is done to help your wife.
Helping your wife ensures you are helping save your marriage.
Hang in there. Be strong. Be proud that you care enough to want to work on this.
2006-12-01 04:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your wife might have some insecurity issues or else she wouldnt be accusing you of something you arent doing. I would consider seeking a marriage counselor, ive seen countless times it turn relationships around; for the better. I would research online and everything for a marraige counselor in your area because i hear they can do wonders for you and your spouse. If you do want a marriage counselor thought, MAKE SURE YOU RESEARCH ONLINE FIRST, there are some fees but you need to make sure you find the best counselor possible in your area. I hope everything works out the best for you!.
2006-12-01 04:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you think she has reasons to feel insecure in your relationship?
What do you think changed all of a sudden when she has exhibited a stable, good tempered personality for 15months?
You need to do some soulsearching and try and work this problem out with your wife and ease her insecurites instead of trying to be selfish and get involved in an affair.
You should aim for long lasting marriage gratification rather than a shallow, spontaneous, short-term affair that is also unethical and unfair to you and your wife.
2006-12-01 04:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So she really has the right to make accusations, since you say here a woman came to you and is nice and sweet. What do you expect, you obviously have a hard time with Fidelity.
2006-12-01 04:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her if she keeps accusing you she is going to lose you because if you are wrongfully accused you lose care and worry of consiquences of cheating if your being accused already. Make up something romantic and continue it over an amount of time that shows her she is your only love.
2006-12-01 04:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Male16 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to have that problem , best thing to do is be blunt about it.
u need to tell her the truth and tell her if she cant accept that then maybe its time to move on. Living with a jealous woman is serious and can only cause problems. dont let yourself get trapped you gotta resolve this a.s.a.p.
2006-12-01 04:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by jdmholdemslick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have been accused of it now for the past 15 months, you might as well just have an affair!
I know me personally, I can only defend myself so much before I lose my cool.
good luck
2006-12-01 04:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by TF 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex was always accusing me of cheating when he was having an affair himself. I hope that's not the case with you.
2006-12-01 04:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by adrian9402 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try everything you can to work things out before giving up. Get counseling and find out whats going on.
2006-12-01 05:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is just pis*ed off at you for doing something. She probably is hiding a guilty secret herself and is just trying to make the whole scene on you...
2006-12-01 04:50:11 · answer #11 · answered by pinkheart100 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋