Why don't guys stress when they find out their fiancee is pregnant?? I am stressed out a little and he is calm. Does do this for me?? Is he stressed a little bit on the inside?? I am 19 and recently lost my friend. She died and child birth so I didn't want to have a kid right now but my fiancee convinced me to keep it. We are rich(my parents and his both have a ton of money and gave us alot when they heard about the engagement and again when they heard bout the baby. We don't owe anything on our house.) I am just worried that something will go wrong. WHY DOESN'T HE WORRY AT ALL???????
2006-12-01 04:44:00 · 13 answers · asked by Amabell 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My friends have or want to have kids too so they are willing to help out. Everything is fine but I worry that something will go wrong. Why don't guys worry?? Is he really scared but doesn't tell me cuz he fears it will stress me out more??
I have asked him but he says he is ok with all this.
What 19 yr old(almost 20) guy is ready for a kid??
2006-12-01 04:46:01 · update #1
I guess I'm scared cuz I lost my bff and it makes me wonder is he is ready.(he fiancee ditched like a week b4 she had the baby). Do I tell him this??
2006-12-01 04:51:04 · update #2
I am sure he is probably scared to death on the inside. But that's okay and very normal. Most guys for one can't admit that they are scared. It defeats their masculinity. He's probably staying so strong because he has too. Have you ever noticed that in relationships where one person is stressing out the other is calm and collective. That's because they have to be regardless of the situation. When my mother died my husband needed to stay strong for me when I could barely keep it together. (I am only 28) Then there are minor times say when he's driving and someone cuts him off. I am the calm one that must try and relax him. So what I am trying to say just because he isn't showing you that he is stressed doesn't mean he isn't worried. He's probably just holding it together for the sake of both of you. Notice next time when he is stressed. I guarantee you will be the calm one. Best of luck and congrats! Everything will be fine!!!
2006-12-01 04:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by AB11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems that you are not worried so much about being pregnant, rather than having complications due to the pregnancy. Each case is different and just because your friend died doesn't mean that you will too. Go to your doctor ask him for the best ways a pregnant woman should take care of herself and relax. You fiancee is probably not worried because he is not thinking that something is going to go wrong. Sometimes women stress too much ove things and we need to take the man's example and have faith.
2006-12-01 12:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by confused by reality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people freak out a little when there is an unplanned pregnancy. You should be glad that he is handling it so well. Just remember that you have the problem of the out of whack hormones and he doesn't. Plus you have the unusual problem of having known someone who died in childbirth, so this makes you even more nervous. My advise to you is to try to relax. I had lots of fears when I was pregnant, some normal and some irrational. I kept a journal and I find that really helps to get write down all of my worries. Best of luck to you, things will be ok, and just be glad that you have a good, mature guy who is standing beside you.
2006-12-01 12:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and don't worry so much. Stress is not good for the baby. Men don't worry as much because they dont' have high amounts of hormones running through their body. Your mind is racing with tons of different questions and possibilities and everything else, and in his mind he's probably thinking....we have 8 months, whats to worry. It's normal. You obviously don't have to worry about the money aspect of it which is nice considering thousands of parents worry all the time on how they are going to support their babies day to day or week to week. His stress will come will come in time but don't expect him to tell you about it. Most men don't. relax, educate yourself on pregnancey and how to take care of a newborn and you'll do fine.
2006-12-01 13:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have a "macho" trait in their genes and they think they have to be strong for you and carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. He's probably a little unsure but he loves you and he loves the child you guys created together. Wait it out, the farther along you get the more love you'll feel towards the baby. It's normal to stress out, whether its' your first or your fourth (like me) it's normal. Calm down and let him carry you through this, that's what he's there for.
2006-12-01 12:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me he is worried, but since you are being overly worried, he is trying to be strong for you. Plus for a lot of men it takes longer for the reality of it to sink in. And just because (and I'm sorry) your friend passed away, it's VERY unlikely it will happen to you. Don't get upset because he is not upset, he may just be excited, or trying to be strong for you. In either case, keep in mind it's his baby too, and if you have an abortion when he wanted to keep it, you will probably ruin your relationship, because that is something you can never take back.
2006-12-01 12:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fisrt of all, i'm sorry about your friend, and i think thet he doesnt worry because he has nothing to worry about, most man what usually worry about is abourt money ,but if you to have plenty, have a house and are planing on getting marry then he probably shouldnt be bother, and about the risk of losing your life in child birth thats something that we all women have to go through, if you have money you may be able to get a better doctor and have top notch health care, dont stress because everything that you feel the baby feels, dont forget he is part of your body (literally ) so try not to think about that, congrats on you baby !!! best of wishes
2006-12-01 12:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by yennyfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously loves you and is trying to stay calm so you calm down too! i realize you say you arent ready for a baby yet, but right now you are pregnant and stressing out is not good for you or baby so just relax and listen to your fiance that is what he is there for he will take care of you. good luck
2006-12-01 12:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy makes women go crazy and turns us into paranoid maniacs. Men freak, too, but don't show it so much. How would it make you feel if he was a basket case? I'm pretty sure it would freak you out even more...if he keeps it in, he knows you're more likely to be calmer, too. Good luck and don't worry...all will be fine.
2006-12-01 12:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the reality of the situation hasn't hit him. As women, it's our bodies that change, so it's more real to us right away. 19 is young, but it can work. Try not to stress about it, there will be hard times, but if your relationship is strong, you can get through it. If you weren't meant to be, you'll find out soon!
2006-12-01 12:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋