I've always had this close group of friends, and my whole life has revolved around them for so long. Without them, I'm ever so shy and I feel unable to talk to other people.
Recently at some point or another they've all been bunking off school to take drugs and so forth, they've invited me to join but I've always said no. I don't know what it is about everything, but I feel like I'm the one who is becoming depressed. I feel so lonely and worry for my friends, because I care for them and can't bring myself to hate them despite what they do to me.
I stopped slitting my wrists a while ago, but with everything that has happened, I've started again and it's all I can do to soothe myself.
I don't know what sort of question I'm asking, is there anybody else out there who feels like me? I don't know what to do next, and I feel as if I've reached my breaking point.
2006-12-01 04:24:48 · 32 answers · asked by coffeekeepsmeawake88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get new friends
2006-12-01 04:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsum691 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say i am proud of you for saying no to drugs. I am in recovery and have been for 15 years and it is still hard sometimes and I wish I would have just said no. With that in mind let me say that a real true friend would not ask you to do drugs. Let your friends know you care about them but can not be there for them as long as they are doing drugs. I know you say you are shy and yet you have made these friends which means you can make other friends as well. So get out there make new non-druggy friends and you may find you not as shy as you think. You can also talk to a trusted adult about your cutting. Believe me there are other ways to soothe and a counselor can help with that. If you can not talk to your parents talk to the school counselor, pastor or other adult that you trust. Most communities have a mental health center that works on a sliding scale fee and can offer you support when you feel you haven't got any. Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-01 04:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? If you keep doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results each time, there's something wrong with that thinking.
You hang with your friends, they do drugs, you feel left out, you feel sad. You get up tomorrow and hang with your friends, they do drugs, you feel left out, you feel sad. You get up the next day and hang with your friends, they do drugs...
Do you see a pattern?
You don't have to simply drop your friends like a hot potato, but you should expand your circle. Spend a little less time with them and a little more time with a different sort of friends. Go to the library. Go to the park. Meet people.
You don't have to be intense and dating and all committed and stuff, just find some folks you can smile and nod at, and as time goes on, you can remark on the weather. Friendships are built, not bought.
You'll do fine. Just come up for a breath of fresh air.
2006-12-01 04:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sincerity is genuine,and what I'm getting from your question is a real cry for help.
At this point you need more than yahoo answers.
I urge you to pick up the telephone and dial "information" and tell the operater that your feeling very depressed and need to talk to someone about it.
She'll put you in touch with a help line.
In the meantime you've come to define who you are by who you hang out with.
YOU are NOT what you look like.
YOU are NOT what you do for a living
YOU are NOT who you hang with.
YOU ARE the very soul,the spirit that is alive deep within you.
You are on the most important journey of your life,the search for yourself.
Don't give up on yourself,its part of the reason you are here.
You are loved,and we care about you.You just don't know it yet.
You are a member of a huge family,the human family,and although I don't know you,I do care about you and want nothing short of the very best life has to offer you.
2006-12-01 04:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to find some other friends to hang with. I know this sounds so easy for me to say, but you don't, under any circumstances, want to start playing around with drugs. Drugs and the craving for them will ruin your life faster than anything I can think of. I know, I'm a recovery alcoholic and attend several meetings a week. It seems like the crack-cocaine, meth, and prescription pain pill addicts struggle so much harder breaking free from their chemical dependencies than those who are simply alcoholics.
I'm sorry you feel so depressed about this that you're cutting yourself to find relief. You do need to talk to someone about this, preferably a doctor or mental health professional.
2006-12-01 06:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you dont need friends like that drugs are bad news and they will try to pull you down with them. find a new group of friends before you end up getting yourself in trouble. believe mwe i know I was a druggie at one time and I know what drugs do. I do applaud you for not doing the drugs but there may be the day when you dont refuse and that is all it will take. you are better off without that group of friends. I know you say you care about them. talk to them and try to tell them that they are going down the wrong path. but keep your distance too. Whatever you do worry about yourself now. Get help for your problems and put theirs on the back burner. You are only responsible for yourself. tell yourself that your life matters to you. you are a person in great need of counseling and I do suggest youget it before it gets too late. If you want i will give you my phone number or somethong and we can talk all you want.
2006-12-01 05:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first and biggest responsibility is to yourself. Your well-being, your happiness, your future. Even if/when you get married, you don't take on the job of completely caring for that other person, nor do they take away all your responsibility for caring for yourself.
It's one thing to care about your friends. It's quite another to let worrying about them completely destroy the quality of your life. And from your own words, it has - you've gone back to a self-destructive habit of your own.
Unless somebody snuck up on them and jabbed them with a needle full of heroin when they weren't looking, these friends made the conscious choice to start taking drugs. It's okay to let them face a consequence for their actions - namely, that you cease to be their friend, or at least stop hanging out with them as much. Who knows? Maybe if you make it clear that they're losing you as a friend because of the drugs, that'll be the wake-up call that one or more of them needs to realize that the drugs are having a bad effect on their lives.
Or maybe not. But they're not your problem. You are your problem. And I hope you can look at your own post and realize just how much of a problem you are to yourself right now. Otherwise you're going to end up dead in a pool of your own blood because you spent so much time worrying about them that you couldn't take care of yourself.
2006-12-01 05:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww, so sorry. listen you just stay off the drugs,and get some counciling for the depression, maybe they can give you some meds for it so you can pull your self out of it. you cant stop your friends from doing what they want to do but you dont have to hate them either. just get some new friends and sooner or later your other groups of friends will come back to reality and hopefully come off the drugs. when they see you going forward and start missing you for your friendship, they will start calling and coming over to see what your up to. just take care of yourself right now. you are the important one, obviously they arent to worried about what is going on with you, so just worry about your own welfare. hope this helps you in one way or another. take care and merry christmas.
2006-12-01 04:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you should stop slitting your wrists, second of all tell them how you feel, tell them how them doing drugs is hurting you, and if they dont do anything about it, your either gonna have to live with it or find some new friends to hang out with
2006-12-01 04:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by knightwolf665 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor, talk to your parents and find new friends. I know this sounds harsh, but people that invite you to skip school and do drugs aren't your friends.
Find things you are interested in. Join a youth club. Check out the local church. Immerse yourself in school and/or find a part-time job.
You're focusing too much on the bad. There are good things in your life - focus on them. And, not to repeat myself, but - talk to your counselors and your parents. You need to make connections with people who can guide you. You need to make new friends you can connect with.
Don't lose hope! You can get through this!
2006-12-01 04:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to remember that you are not responsible for anyone but yourself. You can't make your friends stop, no one stops doing drugs until they make the decision themselves.You must be feeling alot of pain to cut to feel better.If you are cutting, you need to talk to someone and get help right away. Many blessings to you.
2006-12-01 04:41:22 · answer #11 · answered by KJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋