Ever since my best friend started dating her boyfriend nine months ago,things have never been the same. I have a boyfriend too so i know what it's like to want to do be with them alot,but she cancels plans with me,saying her mum wont let her out and then goes to see her bf.Last week,she said she was meant to be seeing her bf but said she would cancel it to see me because i hadnt seen her in weeks.So she went to see him on the friday and then next day,the day she was meant to be seeing me,suddenly told me she wasnt allowed out.Then,by a slip of the tongue she just told me that she had been at his house that night.I felt so angry i swore at her,and she cried but only when we met up with her bf(sympathy is a habit).Also,she has been noticing this guy staring at me and so has my rather angry bf.Now according to her,he's staring at her all the time when i'm not there.It might seem petty,but i didnt mean to get so mad at her,but it was a build up of her upsetting me.What can i do?
2006-12-01 04:18:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
baby girl, nothing. she is now just your friend. she has her priority and you are now second best (if that). let her be. if that is how she wants to treat you then you can't really do anything about it. just go out and have fun. if she happens to show up in your life, then just accepted her as a friend. now you know where she stands.
2006-12-01 04:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've been very patient with her and she's taken advantage of it. You've done everything you can to save this friendship. It's now up to her. Some people are going to tell you to drop her as a friend but I'm not going to suggest that. Try this: Put the ball in her court. Flat out tell her how you feel and that you'd like to remain friends but you are no longer going to make plans with her or make any initiative to see her. Tell her that from this point on, she needs to make the initiative to maintain the friendship because you are tired of doing all the work. That means she makes the plans and she sticks with them. She needs to make an effort to gain back your trust and she needs to grovel a bit. If she doesn't make any initiative, then the friendship is definitely over. Good luck and I hope my advice has been helpful.
2006-12-01 04:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being funny or anything but your friend needs to realise that the problem is with the boy. If he is looking at you then she needs to talk to him about it. You are not in control of his eyes and she should realise that. I wouldnt be upset about yelling at her, i would have too. She needs to talk to the guy and not take it out on you! One day she will realise that boys come and go but its your friends that stick! Give her some space, let her make her own mistakes!
2006-12-01 04:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by alana m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to talk to your friend, tell her how you feel. It is the only way you will be able to sort this out. Try to come to some agreement that will work for both of you. Maybe try going on double dates, therefor you are spending time with your boyfriend and you friend.
2006-12-01 05:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by rb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her, she's of direction the shape to ditch her acquaintances over boys it really is a foul indication! After she ditches and isolates you and ***** about you wager who often is the first human being she would come to even as issues initiate to bypass incorrect such as her and the boy? You of direction...if it truly is the kind of friendship you pick then follow her, if no longer i'm sensible there are extra worth acquaintances who benefits you :)
2016-11-30 00:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have done the same thing in the past.... and people have done that to me.... i lost a best friend becasue he was jealous of my girlfriend...and me and him hung out more than me and her... yea tell me thats not weird.... i would be pissed if they were supposed to hang out with me and then lied to me to hang out with them,,,, i would have cussed them also.... i have a so called friend that lies to us all the time and i know he isnt going to stop..... oh well i guess..... i know what you are talking about and i sure that you didnt want to hear that.... im sorry i dont have an answer for you though... i would say sit her down and ytry to work ouot a schedule to hang out or somehting like that...
2006-12-01 04:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
temporarily write her off. Don't make plans with her. If she asks you, tell her you are busy.
She'll come around, eventually, when the bf is no longer in the picture. And she will see, for herself, what a butt she has been.
2006-12-01 04:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind but jealousy has 20-20 vision.
Love is blind but jealousy has 20-20 vision.
Love is blind but jealousy has 20-20 vision.
2006-12-01 05:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by profiler 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait...time heals all wounds
2006-12-01 04:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop her if she don't understand your reasons, try and set up a girls night with just you two
2006-12-01 04:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by adblodgett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋