Im dating someone who's 22 & im 32 & sometimes it seems like some things we go thru, i've already been thru & it's really frustrating. Should i find someone on my level or try to mold the youngster. i try but she just doesnt get it sometimes.
2006-12-01 04:08:41 · 34 answers · asked by jlicious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get a woman your own age if you can. Some men can't relate to women their own age because they're immature or have ego issues, and most grown woman find them unattractive.
2006-12-01 04:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your job to raise her. If you want to do that, get a puppy. And why push her faster than the normal maturation process just to make her suitable to you? Time and experience are the only real maturation factors that really work, imo.
It's normal that you'd feel a disconnect with someone that age. There's a big difference (usually) in life experience and maturity level between 22 and 32. You may be able to find a woman who's that young and happens to be at your level of life experience, but that would be rare.
Decide how much it matters to you and act accordingly, but overall, I think until both parties are 30 or over, age *does* matter.
2006-12-01 04:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK my husband is 47 i am 29, he maybe older in years but there are times that i am older in mind! if you really love someone than there age or yours does not mean shitt!
the part about try to mold the youngster or someone on your level tells me that you do not love this person but enjoy having a younger g/f because it makes you look like a big stud! sounds like you need to grow up yourself!
2006-12-01 04:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, with the age difference there can be some maturity and experience differences but still, I don't think it matters if you really love and get along with each other.
She might also think that you don't get it when ou react a different way than she would, but then even if she was your same age or older she might see things differently.
Try a little patience, as your said yourself, you've been through it but she hasn't, so how is she supposed to know!
2006-12-01 04:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lakini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very individual question, in general I don't think there's anything wrong with a big age gap. Some people mature faster than others etc... If you are happy and comfortable then all is well, if you feel like you are going through problems that stem from the age gap then you have to look at things.
However as I said earlier, its all about personal preference and your own situation.
2006-12-01 04:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by NM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. There is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and I (I'm 27). I have never been happier in my life. Just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. If those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. Love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.
2006-12-05 02:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy-N-Luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all pal.
a man is genetically attracted to a girl who is much younger and the higher the age difference the longer it could last.
girls looove older guys with some gray lines on the sides. It is common around here for 19 yr olds sleeping with 40 yr old men.
relax enjoy and when you are 40 get a gal who would be 20.
2006-12-01 04:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age differance will only matter if you let it. But if she's just not understanding what you try to tell her, then she may not be the right "youngster" for you. Just give it a little more time and maybe she might be able to figure it out...
2006-12-01 04:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by antsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will pass, if you can accept that she has to figure some of the stuff out for herself.
Make sure you don't play the old wise man, or you will wreck it.
If you can't accept that she has to go through some of these things without you telling her how it's going to end, then I'd cut it off.
If it's not a huge problem for you and you are otherwise happy together, then it's a problem with a limited lifespan - eventually you'll sync better.
2006-12-01 04:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by Setien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I dont think you can help who you love. If you love this girl you will do anything for her to make it work. Just think about your situation and if it isn't going anywhere you should step out. But if you think she might be the one talk to her about the things you get frustrated with and see what you BOTH can do to work on them! Every relationship is hardwork. I think that the age difference should not be a problem if you are truely in LOVE..
Good Luck with that! Hope all goes well
2006-12-01 04:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone then. Why take away her chance to experence things that you did just because you don't want to go thru them again. Age does matter I learned this the hard way. If you can't let her be her age then don't make her grow up fast. Your only young once!
2006-12-01 04:12:39 · answer #11 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋