Ok...Father's paying child support (very good amount)...Ex-Wife has good paying job, but NEVER seems to be enough...Would it be right for her to ask for help into making extra money?...The father happens to be in the field to help her...But is it his place to do so?...What do you guys think??..
2006-12-01 04:04:08 · 12 answers · asked by $&$& 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think as long as the he is taking care of his children that is all that matters. She should be using the money wisely and it seems she isn't because she needs more while having a good paying job. Ask for a budget to see where the child support is going, ask to see how she is spending her money if something is wrong help her to spend it wisely. Don't give more until you deem it absolutely necessary!!!
2006-12-01 04:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of any future relationships, keep the ex at a distance. I realize there are times when things get off track and one or the other needs help but, to make it a habit is one you will have to kick one day. I would be asking, what are you doing with your money? i would ask for receipts for what you spent on the children from the child support?. I would set her down and work on a budget, tell her you have to give up certain things. After all, you do not expect to pay child support the rest of your life, do you? What will she do then?That is the habit i mentioned that you would have to kick on day. If she refuses to cooperate with you, then she does not need the money for necessities, does she? I just broke up with a man that was at his ex's side at her beckon call. They have a 14 year old son she tells him he will never see again if she does not get what she wants. DO NOT FALL INTO THIS TRAP. If you do, you can kiss any future happy relationships good-bye.
2006-12-01 04:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Leave the ex be, if you pay child support, and its usally calculated on how much you earn that should be enough. What about all the benefits she gets, really i think the wife should stop shopping and asking for more cash! Selfish!!!
If the wife cant look after her and her child having money sent her way all the time, then i think you should get custody over the child. She needs to take care of herself!!!!!!
2006-12-01 04:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. There are a few reasons but the most prominent is because he is following his court order of custody and she isn't. It will help if you retain copies of the incident reports from the police and phone records. Both are easily obtainable
2016-05-23 07:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. I have helped out ex-girfriends, let alone an ex-wife. Life is too short. Children are too precious. If you are in a position to help, add to your karma bank.
By the way, could you laon me.... ;-)
2006-12-01 04:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY EX-WIFE HAS THE OPTION OF WORKING FOR ME IN MY BUSINESS IF SHE NEEDS TO BUT I HAD HER SIGN A PAPER SAYING THAT SHE HAS A "RIGHT TO WORK"BASICALLY SHE CAN BE FIRED AT ANY POINT IN TIME FOR ANY REASON ANY EXTRA MONEY NEEDED FOR THE CHILDREN I GIVE TO HER IN A MONEY ORDER
2006-12-01 04:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by FRANKIE Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would if it would benefit the children. As long as she plans on using the money to put towards the kids then yes.
2006-12-01 04:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by little mama kat 23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my ex and I would do anything to help eachother because it is all in all in the best interest of our son for us both to be doing well and for us to show him that we can be friends. Besides, if you would do it for a stranger shouldn't you do it for someone who birthed your children?
2006-12-01 04:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is still on a freindly level (splitting up on good terms) Sure I would help her, not forever for awhile.
2006-12-01 04:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would ask what she needs the extra money for, if its something for the kids then i would go and get it for them. (that way she knows that you will help your kids if they need something but she has to fend for herself)
2006-12-01 04:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋