Plus, if she tells you that she doesn't feel the way she used to love me. And what would you do if you caught your wife accessing Myspace w/out you knowing? Is a sign and/ or divorce time?
2006-12-01 04:03:35 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didn't know my space is like a dating site too. I just checked this out i thought it was like yahoo where you just chat and find friends. This could be the reason why your wife is feeling different towards you. She probably has met some one that turns her on the way u use to but with time you both stop keeping the fire lite and things get boring. and she priobably started out just chatting and perhaps found some man who will take an interest in her. I would try to fix this its not to late she hasn't said i want a divorce. She probably feels you dont' love her much anymore and you ignore her and pay less attention so instead of couples telling the other how they feel the turn inwards and become quiet to the person they should inform and express there thoughts the mosst and instead find strangers to go to.
Try opening up to her let her know you love her and want to be a part of this marriage but you notice things are cooling down and how can we get this back? if she wants that too she should be happy you suggested this and give you ideas and her too can do things you like. I think your missing out on more here you need to communicate with her and get things back on track..
Maybe your missing romance, tenderness just good ol communication. start by asking and letting her know your in this marriage cause you love her and want to make it work.
I wish you luck. And if she wants this too. soon you'll both be singing a different tune.
allthe best
2006-12-01 13:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow she talks about stuff while you 2 are actually having sex? interesting, heh. if she feels you're just a friend, perhaps you're not being romantic enough (for her taste). how long have you been married anyway? was it a marriage based on love, was it an arranged marriage or did you get married out of need/desperation? was it a shot-gun wedding, was she pregnant at the time? does she love you? sometimes people say stuff about you or to you they actually feel themselves. but for some reason they transfer their own personal feelings onto you. perhaps SHE doesn't feel love for you, and considers herself YOUR friend. sex alone doesn't make a marriage or a loving relationship. friends can have sex too. i guess she should be happy that you're her friend, to begin with! most marriages aren't very, shall we say, friendly? at any rate, ask her to elaborate on her feelings. women love to talk things through. but if she's myspace-ing it, then i'm beginning to think she's looking for love elsewhere, since she probably has fallen out of love w/ you (if ever she was in love w/ you). do you have children together? a lot of times what brings 2 people together is the joint responsibility of raising a family. sharing children in common can really make a woman feel close to her partner, and vice-versa. but if she has turned to myspace for comfort, then i assume she's either going through one of those low points women go through sometimes, or she's decided to find love elsewhere. then again, she might be doing nothing more than chatting w/ her girlfriends about girl stuff *shrug*. anything is possible. given her feelings for you, it only seems logical she's fishing (surfing) for romance online. if you love her, try marriage counseling. but first try talking to her calmly about her true feelings for you, not just about you. make her talk, but don't force the issue. if she resists, you can egg her on gently. GENTLY i said!!!!! keep an open mind, though. it could just be a phase she's going through. if in the end she decides she doesn't love you anymore, b/c truth be told, it sounds like her problem, not yours, then your best bet would be to get a trial separation. she might just need to distance herself from you in order to really miss and appreciate you. so, if romancing her doesn't work, and if she won't discuss her feelings w/ you either one on one or in therapy, then ask her what she's been doing online. but don't speak in a blaming or accusing tone!!! don't presume she's cheating!!! casually ask her about it, and pretend like it doesn't bother you either way. if she doesn't feel threatened, she's more likely to open up. ugh this is getting lengthy. good luck!!!
2006-12-01 12:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your to gentle with her and she doesn't like it but wants more excitement in the bed room
she is your wife not your child you dont have to know everything she looks at on line
no its a sign that you need to pay more attention to your wife!
2006-12-01 12:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋