i am so confused!!! i am a 16 year old female. I have a girlfriend and a boyfriend!! i like my girlfriend alot but i love my boyfriend! he doesnt know about my girlfriend cause im afraid that he'll judge me and she doesnt know about him because im afraid she wont wanna be with me anymore! but a few days ago a girl wrote me on myspace and told me that my boyfriend asked her out! :( real tear dropper ! but iv been with him about a good year but is that an open oppurtunity for me to be with my girlfriend? im starting to fall in love with her!! please help me!
2006-12-01 03:58:59 · 12 answers · asked by sullette b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You should totally go with your girlfriend! Everything happens for a reason! But if you're really falling for this girl, you should come clean about your boyfriend! It would be better, cuz if she finds out on her own, it'll be a lot more painful down the road. good luck!
2006-12-01 04:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder you're confused, you have like 4 or 5 issues here.
Step one, don't just go with "some girl told me" as a reason to think the boyfriend is fooling around. Find out! Facts, not rumors, ok?
Step two; think about who you have more fun with hanging around. Ask yourself "ignoring the sex, who's a better friend?" In the long run that's more important, friendship.
Step three; you're 16, don't take any of it so seriously. You're still a kid, relationships should be friendly and fun, otherwise why bother?
Good luck!
2006-12-01 04:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you are far too young to have these problems...I know you don't feel young, but you are making a mountain of a mole hill. Why not just settle down, let things come as they may, and go with the flow. You are probably, but not necessarily, bisexual. This may change with time to Gay or Straight. Let things take their course. You don't need to be in love with anyone. Find yourself and love yourself as you are. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, now just straighten (or gay)out the jumble and things will be fine. Let's face it, you have no room to be jealous of anything either of them may do..you have been living a double life, perhaps it is just their turn...let it happen, for you will survive just fine. Put down the jealousy..this is a very energy wasting emotion that leads to bad places. Good luck
2006-12-01 05:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your Bf is asking other people out dump his A*S And go with your girl friend. And meaning you are falling in love with her you should be with her. And if your bf askes you why you are breaking up with him just say I have fellings for someone eles and that you do not feel right dateing him since you have felling 4 some one eles.
2006-12-01 07:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like he might have moved on. It's time to have a talk with him and see what's up. If he's moved on, break it off and be with your girlfriend. Oh, and honest, open communication is very important to making a relationship work.
2006-12-01 05:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump both of them & start from scratch. Figure out which sex you truly wanna be with & then meet sum1 else. Maybe wait until you're a little older & more stable.
2006-12-01 04:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE him you dont need him even though u cheated on him 1st or maybe u didnt maybe u just dont know what he was doin just like u. But anyway stick wit ya girl make a clean slate with her.
2006-12-01 04:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is an open opportunity because your guy is falling in love with some other chick. or how about this is the right moment to come out and tell him that you are gay. im a lesbian myself.
2006-12-01 05:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by SKITTLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best way is to take a test of them and calculate the result of the loyality.
who is more loyal to you ,u should choose him.
and i think you know that there r many examples of such tests.
wish u good and loyal frnds.
2006-12-01 04:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your girl friend, get rid of the boy friend. He is not really your friend if he is trying to go out with someone else.
2006-12-01 04:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋