How do I stop being the victim, and start determining my own life?

Answer 1

Ask yourself what you need to do in order to establish your independence. It really just comes down to asking yourself why you feel the way you do. Why do you always put yourself in the position of the victim. Change your thinking patterns. You are no longer a victim! Erase victim from your brain. You are a strong individual! Once you start accepting this as truth you will notice a change in your thinking and behavioral patterns. You should keep a journal and everytime you start feeling like the victim write down exactly what you're feeling and whats going on around you. Later on go back to your journal and look at what was going on during that time. Ask yourself why this made you feel like a victim. Everytime you feel weak or incapable ask why and then replace with a positive thought. You are capable and strong because... Doing this regularly will help by allowing you to really get to know yourself. We tend to forget very easily so if you write these things down you will see pattern emerge that must be broken. I suggest you seek counseling too.

Answer 2

first you need to take responsibility for your part in the victimization. you need to see how your actions relate to how you are treated by others. for instance do you play the part of the victim? do you allow others to walk on you and if so what do you get out of it? i know this sounds harsh but, if you are serious about changing this in your life you have to ask yourself the hard questions. once you acknowledge your part in this you can start to change your behaviors, that in turn will change the way others see you and then you will not be attractive to the victimizers. it takes a lot of self confidence and determination to change old patterns. what do you want?, and what are the ways you have gotten what you wanted before? was it like you thought it would be? i hope this will be a start to you taking control of your life. i know it worked for me

Answer 3

You need to realize how and why you are the victim. Is it because of your parents or is a love one controling your life. Try moving somewhere new or getting a new job. Go get a fresh new start in your life.

Answer 4

you' ll stop being a victim when you'll stand up and you'll start something of important for you that doesn't feel you like a poor guy.there are persons who really are victims

Answer 5

sometimes you really need to make an honest decision and do whatever it takes(meds, counseling, socializing, etc.) to ensure your success

Answer 6

take control
stand up for yourself
get counseling
beat someone up