her and her boyfriend have been together for 5 years and he told her last week that he want to have a baby. she wants to but she's still kind of scared, she's really skinny (85-90 lbs.) and is afraid she will have trouble during labor. any advice for her?
2006-12-01 03:42:54 · 31 answers · asked by Devin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ask her how she plans on paying for her child? Has she checked with hospitals to find out how much it will cost for her to deliver there? Unless she or her boyfriend have very wealthy parents they should wait until they've at least graduated from high school and both should have jobs and at least one of them should have insurance before they even concider it. Babies are expensive.
2006-12-01 03:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Melius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will have trouble during labor she may have to even have a c section, but i dont asure you anything, any how, i think that your friend is way to young to be having a baby, her bosy is not ready, and probably she is not ready to take that responsability, i know that when you are with somenone for sush a long time you think that you found the right person and that nothing will ever come in between you two, maybe she should wait another year or so and believe me i know what i'm telling her, i'm only 19 and 9 months pregnant, i was extremely lucky because i found a man that that has his own house, bought me a car, and doesn't let me work even when i wasn't pregnant, so she shouldnt only think of the physical side but the financial as well, good luck and hope i didnt sound like an old lady but as i sais i'm young and made mistakes too!! good luck!!
2006-12-01 03:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by yennyfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should wait to have a baby. High school is hard enough without the added pressures of an infant. He says he wants a baby now but wait until she's pregnant and he realizes that there's another life coming into this world. If they've been together for 5 years then they can wait another 4-5 years and become financial stable to have a baby. Labor should be the least of her worries.
2006-12-01 03:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby changes a person's life forever. Some of it wonderful, some of it not so wonderful. It is stressful on the body, on the mind, on the emotions, on the checkbook. Your friend has many years ahead of her to have a baby, but only once to be 16. Maybe she could think about it a little more first and see if she is ready for all the responsibilities she will have. They are more than maybe she can see at the moment.
2006-12-01 03:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by MDG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have advice 16 is way too young to have a baby! if she goes through with it she is a very selfish person ,what kind of life could she possibly give a baby?...is she going to quit school to take care of the baby?...how will she support the child financially?...does your friend know that when you have a baby u can no longer be a kid any more you have to grow up and fast because everything you do has to be for that child not for yourself...no more going out with your girl friends for fun instead she would be at home changing poopy diapers and feeding the baby...and what happens if things don't work out between her and her boyfriend,5 years is a long time but she still has the rest of her life to live and there is no guarantee that they will be together forever...if you care about your friend please try your best to talk her out of this! Be supportive of her but try to get her to wait they can always have a baby together after they finish school and are stable enough with a house of their own and with jobs so that they can support their child,kids r not in any way cheap...if your friend or you wants to talk further please e-mail me crystal_leann2001@yahoo.com
2006-12-01 03:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just too young to want to get pregnant.. I'm sure she has wonderful dreams about having a baby, and trust me.. It is wonderful, but some aspects of it are stressful.. You have to worry about money and all sorts of other things.. She probably thinks that having a baby is going to bring her and her boyfriend closer together, but at that age it will only tear them apart and leave the innocent baby in a broken home!! You need to talk to her about this.. Tell her to talk to her parents or her school counselor.. As her friend you need to take the responsibility to let her know the cons of this.. Good luck to you
2006-12-01 03:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise her that having a child at her age is not a wise decision. You have to cook, clean, feed, and house a child. How can a 16 year old get a job that makes enough money to take care of their child?
Is this boyfriend going to be around for the next 18 years to help take care of this child?
Having children is an 18 year commitment, a decision once made can lead to a ruin of more than one lives.You must be prepared for all of the sacrafices that will have to be made in order to take care of a child.
2006-12-01 04:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by chefantwon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her that when you have a baby you also have a whole set of responsibilities that go along with it. I doubt at the age of 16 that she makes enough money to support a child. Also tell her that labor will be hard on her body as will the pregnancy. She will never have her tinny figue back.
2006-12-01 03:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that your friend is far to young to want to have a baby. i got pg at 19 (planned)and i m now 20 with a 6 month old daughter. my fiance works long hours so i'm on my own most of the time and only have the weekend to myself when hes off work.
i hope she knows that once she has a baby and her partner realises its too much of a responibility he will leave her to deal with it on her own.
i find it very hard harder then i thought it would be but i love it and wouldnt change a thing.
but i think she should wait until she has left school got a job and is finacially stable to afford a baby.
but at the end of the day if she wants to have a baby then thats up to her and her partner and no one can tell them what to do.i just hope she knows what she is getting herself in for.
and i'm sure if she wants to have a baby then she can deal with going through labour.
2006-12-01 04:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by babytots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice is for her to wait until her own body is done developin before trying to carry a child. She may be mentally able to take care of a baby, but her body may not be ready and the longer she waits (and gets her body prepared by gaining weight and taking extra vitamins, etc) the better.
I wish her luck, but hope that she waits a bit longer so that she and her baby can have the best lives possible.
2006-12-01 03:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Redhedbeautie2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋