Having read some of the answers to other miserable people's questions, I probably shouldn't say all this, but I don't have anyone else to turn to. I'm miserable all the time - I'm nearly 30 and I have no job and a husband who loves me but whom I don't love very much. I try to love him but I just can't. I don't find him attractive any more and I pretty much hate myself. I haven't done anything with my life and I think I'm going to die without ever having achieved anything. I had a miscarriage this year and I was put in a psych. hospital against my will and I have nightmares about being there every night. I hate life. I hate it and I wish I'd never been born. I don't want to talk to anyone - the last person I talked to put me in hospital - and talking doesn't do anything. Nothing changes; I haven't got any energy. I hate everything and I wish I could go to sleep and never wake up.
2006-12-01 03:31:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have finally come off anti-depressants after being on them for five years - yes, it may seem stupid, but it's the only thing that I'm proud of at the moment, being off these wretched things.
And I live in the UK - all my family are in Australia. And I have absolutely no money, and zero ability to hold down a job.
2006-12-01 03:43:10 · update #1
it sounds like you are suffering from serious depression, getting in this slump and frame of mind are easy to get into but it's the pits trying to get out. Misery loves company girl! If you are able, talk to a doctor and ask him to prescribe you some Zoloft, it is wonderful for women with depression, no druggy side affects, little expensive, but worth its wait in gold if you can afford it. Try to change your outlook on life. Many times things are no where near as bad as we think they are. Find a friend to vent too. I'll be a net pal if you want. Email me at LitlBitt1971@aol.com or look for me on yahoo msgr at litlbitt71. You are not the first last or only one to ever felt like this but because you are so heavy laiden with it, you feel the world is sitting on your shoulders and no one on earth could possibly understand what you're feeling or going through. Best of luck and feel free to contact me if you want.
2006-12-01 04:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a serious disconnect between yourself & reality. All your problems will never be solved. That is the first thing you need to realize. The second thing is that there is No Time Machine. So what is past is past to late to change it now. Thirdly, Just because past is past doesnt mean that you can forget. You need to accept the past and accept the truth and stop trying to run around in denial. Also You need to face your fears. WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OFF? i dont know, but one of them is thinking about your fears. You need to take your fears and realize they are your fears face them and see that your not DEAD! Yes life sucks sometimes, Oh Well, Deal with it.Your not the first or the last to have some crappy stuff happen to them. Now once you've figured out the cause of your serious issues you need to MOVE FOWARD. Will it be easy? NO, SUCK IT UP!!!!! "There is no free lunch" Stop feeling sorry foryour self, Stop being selfish thinking the world revolves around you, You want everyone to feel sorry and sad for you. ....yes you do...BE PROACTIVE! What is it that you really want? Don't say "i dont know" You know stop running from the truth. Get up and get it done! Gee whiz, you wonder why you were put in the hospital? Did you not read the question you posted? Look at your life from the outside and what advice would you give someone posting that question?
You have two options, Curl in a ball and cry, or Face Reality!
2006-12-01 11:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As I am reading your question, I thought it was me who wrote this. I am feeling the same way right now. I am 30, unemployed and have a boyfriend who loves me very much. I say that line "I wish I could go to sleep and never wake up" almost everyday. I feel so depressed lately. Maybe because I don't have friends to talk to. But right now I am keeping myself busy so I will not have time to think of those bad things. Try to be more productive doing chores and learning new things. And even if you don't love your husband better stick to him. You're lucky to be with someone who loves you so much.
2006-12-01 11:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by JT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in a similar situation once. The first thing to do is get help for your depression (it seems you have all of the symptoms...no energy, self-loathing, etc.). This is the most important step. I don't condone divorce or seperation, but you will remain miserable as long as you are in a marriage out of guilt. It is not fair to either of you. You should at least examine this situation realistically (trial seperation?). Get a job...any job...so that you are out in the productive world amongst other people. This will be very hard at first, but will slowly rebuild your self-esteem. Then, after you start to feel better about you and feel stable and happy again, you cna maybe start to think of goals that you are interested in accomplishing (school, volunteer, getting in shape...etc.). It will take time..but you MUST start now. And, speaking from someone who knows first hand...life is waiting for you....and is worth working for. Lastly, find small reasons to smile and laugh.....look up jokes online....go to a park and watch kids play.....remember that you are a healthy, smart person (smart enough to ask this question)....you are not homeless, starving, or abused. SMILE sweeetie! You are worth it! Good Luck!
2006-12-01 11:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by oatmealrazn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had enough energy to write down your feelings here....Please keep that up. Go out and buy a Journal and start writing. Maybe you were put on this earth to help someone who has been through the same things as you. You were put on this earth for a reason and you need to search that and find out what God's plan for you is. Losing a baby is devastating. You need to begin there. Maybe you could even visit Senior citizens or homeless shelters and volunteer. This will give you a purpose to get up everyday knowing someone needs you and you are helping them. So, get up and go buy yourself a Journal, a new outfit, and start a new chapter in your life. God Bless!!
2006-12-01 11:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have the complete inability to take control of your life and your destiny. If you can't or won't help yourself, how are we (or anyone for that matter) suppose to help you.
You need help. You need to be in the psych ward getting therapy. You are a hazard to your own health. You need to be on anti-depressants. You need to check yourself into the hospital. Start being an active participant in your life. It only takes one step and I'm sure you have enough energy for that.
2006-12-01 11:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you don't want to talk to anyone, you really need to get some help with this. It sounds as if you have been through a great deal lately and you are hurting. Please call a local Psychiatrist and make an appointment. Maybe they can give you some medication that will help you get through this pain. You may also want to think about looking into a support group for miscarriages. Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 11:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Scooter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get involved with someone who is hurting, something in your life has shattered your self worth.u have no self respect so your on a road to self destruction.u don't find your husband attractive anymore because u don't see yourself as attractive. all lies within yourself has very little to do with him. accept your limits, and celebrate your strengths. all lies in how u see your maker, believe it or not it is so true. so go an achieve something, why are you telling yourself all these negative things about yourself. u need to get involved in something spititual, i also felt this way after my ex of 10 years left me for the other woman. felt there was no hope i had faith in absolutely nothing, than i got to know my maker, and it took awhile but life got better for me. good luck, sending prayers your way.
2006-12-01 20:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to start looking for a job and become more independent, after that you should leave that dead end marriage and find your own place, and maybe after you have some more money on you go back to Australia and be with the people who love you for who you are.
Good luck and God bless
2006-12-01 11:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what kind of things do you enjoy??? If there is a hobby you like then maybe you should try turning it into a job. As far as your husband goes, just leave him. Go stay with family or friends for awhile.
2006-12-01 11:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Nana T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋