Marriage is failing, but he is my best freind, how do I keep him as a freind and still walk away.
I want him to stay a part of my life. i love him dearly as a freind. We started out as freinds and should have stayed that way. I know that now.
The thing is, If i loved him, truly loved him the way a wife should, I wouldnt even think of walking away, but I dont , and he deserves a good, true life filled with love. I just cant be the one to give it to him.
will he ever forgive me if I cant see anyway but out? would u?
I have been 100% faithful,and am not even considering dating or anyone else after we split...I just want us both to have a life of true love.
He is a wonderful man who can give so much love, i just cant make myself love him that way...what do i do??
2006-12-01 03:23:24 · 11 answers · asked by Sassy P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think everyone should know here, that we dont get along in the same household.
2006-12-01 03:55:20 · update #1
if he loves you, he might never understand. But then again, it's your happiness we're talking about. If you two divorce, he'll be mad for a while. But he'll recover, trust me.
2006-12-01 03:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by The_Tempest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best marriages and couples are often those that start as best friends. If you know each other deeply, if you feel like you won't be able to understand and share so much with someone else as you do with him, then you may still be hung up with him, and deluding yourself that you will be able to find all those things in someone else.
Try some marriage counseling, you owe yourself that. If it doesn't work out, you can still break up... but if you two understand each other as well as you say you do, I would try to give the relationship a second chance.
2006-12-01 03:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Extreme Ways 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is your first choice. Read again what you just wrote and you are going to find out that you do not make sense. You love somebody and do not want to be with him??? Your main concern should be, Why your marriage is falling??? You made a promise to yourself and to your husband when you married so, why not keep it. Do you have kids?? You have to answer why you want to quit...
Best of wishes!,
Please do not divorce if you are not sure. Think of this: Your marriage is a blessing, i am sure there are more positive aspects than negative ones. So you have to fight!!
2006-12-01 03:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by adsomx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have this much love for him and you married him I personally would seek counselling to try to work things out.You seem to have a lot of love for him and also respect which seems to be reciprocated by him.Put some romance back into each others lives and do some counselling .I think there is some hope for you and him yet.Maybe its just a lull you are in.
2006-12-01 03:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by knowsitallandabitmore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i exchange into such as you, i exchange right into a "overweight" female for the period of extreme training. I never suggestion i'd in looking somebody to love me, for how i used to be. I waited and waited, and you already understand i found a large variety of guys that ultimately took understand of the character interior, no longer the exterior. Take it an afternoon at a time, don't be in this way of hurry to discover a boyfriend, whilst the time is authentic, Mr. proper will come alongside.
2016-10-04 14:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by alisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell did you marry him? if you walk away, which you should, Give the guy a clean break. He will not want to be your friend, You will break his heart so darlin' Just go. Tell him you have fell out of love with him and you want a clean break, It's the best thing. Why would he want the woman he loves, who doesn't love him, constantly there to remind him of what he wants but can't have?
2006-12-01 03:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women who think it is possible to break up but remain friends 1. watch to much Seinfeld and 2. are unrealistic. The thought of me and my wife divorcing, but remaining friends so she can "gossip" with me about her new boyfriend and how much better her life is doesn't sound like something I would like to do, the same goes for her, yea "friend" we can't hang out tonight, Im going to go bang some chick I don't care about", "but you can hang out with us if ya want" yeeaaa right
2006-12-01 03:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try marriage counseling first. If you truly love him, and it sounds like you do, you owe it to yourself.
2006-12-01 03:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very cruel for marrying someone you don't love as a husband. How did you make it through your wedding day?
2006-12-01 03:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him everything you just said. If you two were best friends first then he should understand
2006-12-01 03:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋