When in a relationship for 2 years your both in love but yet your partner does the unthinkable by sleeping with someone else when do you draw the line and say enough is enough i am so confused
2006-12-01 03:20:50 · 15 answers · asked by Dimplez87 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think you need to draw the line now! If this is hurting you emotionally and you feel this is not right, which it is not, deep down inside of you; you need to draw the line and move on! By the way, it's not love for someone to do the unthinkable by sleeping with someone else.
2006-12-01 04:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by anthony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The line has been crossed, don't you think? When did you say it was ok with you when you share 2 years of your life with someone they can sleep around? Relationships should be built on trust. How can you trust someone when they cheat on you?There's nothing to repair this problem until you can trust this person. Stop trusting what is already hurting you. If this person has cheated on you, more than likely it will happen again. People that cheat have a pattern. They always end up doing it again because there's something inside them that makes it ok for themselves. People that cheat become selfish. They justify for themselves inside themselves that they deserve what they want. Think about weather your partner has been there for you.TRULY. Can you honestly say this person has been there for you, helped you, and made you feel special with their whole heart? If your partner didn't then it's obvious nothings going to change. Leave now. Get out even if you love this person. It's only going to hurt you worse later
2006-12-01 03:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ida 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotional pain is usually not solved by quantifying things, it's hard to be logical when you're hurting, but you can try to analyze the situation by detaching yourself from it for a while. Easier said than done, but just try.
If your partner has just had an occasional slip in judgment and is now coming clean and begging for mercy at your door and you are sure that it is over between him/her and the other person, then I think your love will allow you to forgive him/her and take 'em back. (Sorry, I'm getting tired of the him/her, I'm using plural next)
But if you think that they are not sincere and that there is a possibility that they will go back to "the same" person again, for a continuous affair, then I think you should hold your ground on this. It may be painful, but it is very demeaning to yourself to let your partner trample on you. Love should be cherished, not trampled upon.
So it's your choice, but either way you have to take a risk, and a leap of faith.
To quote a friend, "Never make someone your priority when they just make your their option"
2006-12-01 03:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you two talked yet? Have you told him (I'm assuming him) that you are hurt by this? Is it possible that your partner is polyamorous? These are some of the things you might want to consider and really talk through before you start drawing lines in the sand. We can love people with all our heart, but we can not control them. Best of luck. Broken hearts do mend.
2006-12-01 03:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If an open relationship was not discussed prior to this, then the guy is just satisfying his own urges without you. And who knows how many he's slept with without your knowledge? I'd get an AIDS test and dump the guy, like now. And be glad you found out before it was many years in the future, and he could've exposed you to any number of STD's. Good luck.
2006-12-01 03:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by steviewag 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Was it a one time thing or has he done this in the past, or will due it in the future? Can you forgive him? Personally I would draw the line the first time, but that's me. I know you are heartbroken, and i'm sorry, but if you want to forgive him than do so. if you do not want to forgive him than don't, it will get better. your true love is out there
2006-12-01 03:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by Alexis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, first let me just say, i am sorry to hear that you (or anyone ) is going through something like that. If it was me I would be done, and just the thought of it is making my stomach hurt right now. But life is short and happiness is a must.
But that's just me and I'm not you nor do I know you.....you know whats right for you and your situation in your heart. Please make a decision that in the end will make you happy.
2006-12-01 03:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Amis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that when one cheats its over! If they really loved you they wouldnt have done it, and you know the old saying once a cheater always a cheater!! Move on it will hurt for a month or so but you will eventually feel better and realize theres more to life, theres alot more fish in the sea.I hope you feel better soon!!
2006-12-01 03:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The line should have been drawn before. If they crossed the line, then it should be considered over. If no boundaries were set, then how would anyone know what constitutes crossing the line?
2006-12-01 05:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right now! If your partner is sleeping around now, it is not likely to change in the future. Get out now!!
2006-12-01 03:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋