In January, I will begin transitioning from male to female. I'm taking it slow at first, but my mind is made up. I want to live the rest of my life as a woman. I know this is a very general question, but I would apreciate any advice from women who have done this. Any tips or hints as to what to expect or make my transition smoother would be greatly apreciated. I am in therapy right now, so I am not looking for either approval or rejection. I have already gotten plenty of both. I am just trying to gather as much information as possible. Thanks in advance.
2006-12-01 03:12:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do not smoke. Smoking+HRT=death. It happens way too often. Also, some surgeons won't do the op on people that have smoked recently.
Also, do what you want to be happy with your life. It seems like there's one road presented for transwomen, and sometimes that road doesn't work for everyone.
Be careful. If you work in a very conservative place, don't just walk in their in fem mode one day to out yourself. Stuff like that's asking to lose your job. Just think before you make a leap basically.
Also, make sure you maintain other aspects of your life while transitioning. I never knew how important this piece of advice was from my therapist until I reached that point myself. I'm just about to go full-time in the next couple weeks/months. I've put so much into transitioning and it's been such an important part of my life for so long now that I'm asking myself what's next? I've fought through hell and now I'm just about to accomplish one of my greatest goals and wondering, "Ok, I've done what I've set out to do. What do I do with my life now?" It's not really a good place to be, but so many end up there towards/at the end of their transition.
Best of luck!
Sarah
2006-12-01 05:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not too hard. One thing you should know is going pure vegetarian is very bad for you. Only eating vegetables is bad because you dont get other beneficiary items from other foods. So you will need to look up substitutes for these like tofu for example and protein pills. To lose weight its very easy. Burn 500 calories off each day OR eat 500 less calories each day. You may also mix it up. Eat 300 less calories and burn off 200 more calories. This will ensure you lose 1 pound per week(500*7=3,500 calories = 1 pound of fat). That will take 60 weeks howev er ifyou eat 3 small meals per day while exercising alot and eating lots of vegetables its very possible for you to burn off 6-7 pounds off per week. Just never do diet pills. Otherwise it will just gain back again. If you get in a routine of exercising and eating right it will stay off. To be gratefull it depends. There are many ways, you can simple read about the war and what soldiers actually do for you. So few people are actually grateful for what soldiers do for us everyday. They risk their lives and sometimes die just so that way you can still have your freedoms. TO be responsible get a job and try to keep it. Not only will you learn to be responsible and work ethic which will be VERY useful after you graduate however you will also get money to save up on whatever you like. Also to be a better person again there are many ways. You could do community service and help out to make your community a better place. Or give some change to a homeless person. To be a better person you could even do something as simple as tutor your younger brother if he is stuggling in school. It doesnt have to be something really big to matter. Even the smallest changes are noticed. Just some advice though so im not forcing anything on you.
2016-03-13 01:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex is FtM. He started transitioning shortly after we started together. Though some places, like our dojo, had no problems with him transitioning from a woman into a man, other places were much more difficult. Transitioning is never easy.
I suspect you have already started dressing and acting more gender neutral. Though upsetting to some, this does make it much easier on many people. Just showing up with a different gender, say in one day, would be very hard for most people to handle. Find all the gender neutral or family friendly, single use bathrooms in areas of work and places you usually frequent. Having no safe place to pee can be a real b i t c h.
My ex was cussed out for using the women's dressing room at a health club, just prior to transitioning, even though he was still a woman, presenting as a women, obviously with breasts, at that point in time. Fortunately our gf was with him and told the woman where to stick it. Even offered to help. She could have done it too.
I wish you as easy a transition as possible.
I have the name and email of a friend who is MtF. I can send you the email address if you wish. She has finished transitioning. Just email me for it.
Lynn Conway has much on her website that should be of help. Link is below.
2006-12-01 03:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon!
I'm just starting down this road myself, have you joined some of the support groups out there? They have been a wonderful help to me. Drop me a line if you want to.
Hugs n' stuff, Sammi XXX
2006-12-02 02:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice would be to be as honest as you can with those that you love and trust. You need to have your support group around you, it's important that you have people to talk to. Good luck.
2006-12-01 04:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a rough road ahead. Filled with many pitfalls and obstacles. But not one that is impassible. Keep your chin up and follow your heart. You are following in the footsteps of many wonderful people.
2006-12-01 14:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to wish you the very best. Life is to short to not be happy. If this is your wish, go for it, and do not ever let anyone talk you out of it. You have to be who you are, and have every right to be happy.
2006-12-01 03:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be happy to help, but I will not put details on the forum. Please email me directly. My wife is FTM and (although reverse) we should be able to offer you quite a few tips. Much love to you, and be blessed on this journey :-)
2006-12-01 03:16:15 · answer #8 · answered by Alexis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your own heart and don't worry what people think. Eeverybody gets one life, and you should live yours the way it makes you happy....nobody else.
"Deperate is the person who looks for "the answer" in a fortune cookie."
2006-12-01 03:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
kuddos love.. a good friend of mine is in transition.. its hard i know but be strong...
2006-12-01 03:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by yourmygoodfeeling 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋