ive been seeing this guy and now i am so disappointed cos i realised that he had no feelings for me,it was pure sex from his side.and i also know that he has a girlfriend hes been hiding from me and i found out that their still together.if he loves her and feels nothing for me why bother having sex with me.now i see that he wanted to c me whenever he felt like it and he was getting drunk before sex because he felt nothing abd he wanted to make himself comfortable.and that sometimes he hugged me just cos he was lonely.its horriblble.and he did tell me that he doesnt feel like cing me all the time and that he likes me and he only wants sex but i was too blind to c.so did he not feel a chemistry?and why bother if he loves his girlfriend.
2006-12-01 03:08:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He didn't care much about you, just wanted the sex. You are wrong about his girlfriend though. He doesn't love her either. Cheating is not an act of love and people who do it are lying to their gf/bf when they say I love you. I wouldn't waste any more time trying to talk to this guy or contact him for any reason. What he did is disgusting. He obviously has no respect for anyone including himself. I know you are upset and probably angry and feel you have been used but; do your best to forgive him (for your own healing) and move on. Next time, try to get to know the person a little better so maybe you can avoid being put into this situation again.
2006-12-01 03:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were an outlet for this problems. Perhaps him and her had problems and he needed someone eles there to pick up the pieces to make him feel better about the situation because he didn't want to leave her. This is something that people do all the time and they don't think about the other person involved. Take it as a lesson learned and move on, add to personal experience and remember what may come about if you have problems in a relationship in the future.
2006-12-01 11:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mimy ImFurst 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. He was seeing you for the sex. Here is a little piece of advice, dont have sex with a guy until you are sure he cares about you and that he doesnt have a girlfriend. In other words, dont act like a doormat and then be surprised when someone wipes thier feet on you.
2006-12-01 11:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kind of understand what you are trying to ask because I was just in a relationship for 5 years for that a few similarities. The only answer I can give (and I hope you get a better one) is that a large part of men are selfish, ruthless, cruel and only think of themselves.
2006-12-01 11:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Doreen R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this jerk go! and if he shows up drunk again, lock your door. It will be harder for you because you have feelings for him, but you will be better off in the future. You never know if he has done this before with some other girl. He's continuing to do this because you are allowing it. Save yourself the heartache and the guilt and drop this loser!
2006-12-01 11:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by soporific2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey some men are just users,maybe you gave in to easily.i am so sorry that this creep took advantage of you,i can even feel your pain in your letter.just be thankful that you found out what he was like and leave him alone,it hurts really bad to be used,be very careful from now on,just look at it this way,he,s a creep ,and be thankfu that you are NOT his girlfriend,imagine what hell he will put her through.cheer up there is someone out there that will appreciate you.....
2006-12-01 11:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by slickcut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question. Re-read your first sentence. The other "girlfriend" is in the same boat. Just move on and learn something from it.
2006-12-01 11:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi confused, i am so sorry for your situation, but unfortunately you were used by this guy. If I was you, I would get as far away from him as possible as he is poison to you. I am sure you will find somebody more deserving of your affection. Good luck.
2006-12-01 11:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by brazilian76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a fundamental misunderstanding of men. They want sex with alot of women, and they want to have sex with women they don't care about.
Also, the drive to do it is strong. Most men are willing to cheat.
2006-12-01 11:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. It was a learning experience. Don't let it happen again and raise your standards for yourself. Men will only do to you what you let them.
2006-12-01 11:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋