He does work, but very relaxed hours. We do not do anything fun together anymore and we are not intimate since this move in. what should i do?
2006-12-01 03:05:40 · 38 answers · asked by eboogie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have to laugh and I don't mean to but it's simple you have to leave him, your in a relationship of convince, just look in the mirror then look at him and say the rest of my life, what you do is put away enough so you can move out or so that you can kick his lazy *** out, and yes it's that easy and it has to be done, the relationship is over if you don't see that shame on you, does he yell does he hit if not that may be on the way , why be unhappy , when it ends and it is going to end just a matter of time, he may make up and say the things you want to hear but it will all go back to the same old same old cut your losses now, and find someone who can enjoy you, don't feel bad you gave of yourself to him what he wants is a mother, you have learned what you need to know about this guy thank god your not married, leave him asap .
2006-12-01 03:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by happyeverafter48 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST TELL HIM what you would like to see happen. Ask him to help you. Also, see a counselor. Are you both students? You can get a free session at your school. If he is just a total jerk and does absolutely nothing at all, not even taking out the trash or doing dishes, maybe you should reconsider. By intimate, do you mean just sex or are you talking about hugging, kissing, dancing, because if none of that is happening then that seems like the real problem. Talk to him. Maybe there is someone else also in his life or yours. Hope not. Hope you can work it out.
2006-12-01 03:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix 6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't give up on him just yet. Men are usually trainable. You don't say if you work outside the home. If you both are employed, the housework should be shared. Start small & ask nice, don't nag. When he does help, don't criticize & give immediate rewards--a compliment & thank you on his help & a snuggle, kiss, grope, etc. At then end of a productive day, thank him again as you both relax on the couch, bed, whatever. Give him a chance, gently show him what/how you need done.
remember, guys have fragile egos, be gentle. RE: the sex--it comes & goes, don't fret (yet)
2006-12-01 03:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by Clycs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend how unhappy your are. Tell him he needs to help do half the chores, not just you. You moved in with him to share a relationship, and that takes a helping hand, from both sides of the party. Ask him why your Intimacy, has died. It should not be, thats one of the main reasons, couples move in together for. Tell him, if all he wants is a maid, and not a girlfriend..then youre leaving. Be honest with him, see how he reacts, together you can straighten things out, and be much happier.
2006-12-01 03:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened when my bf and I moved in together. You just need to talk to him about it. My bf and I split the household chores. I cook, do the dishes, and do the laundry and he keeps the apartment clean and takes care of the cat litter. If he won't talk to you about it, then just stop doing all of that so he can see how much you are doing. As for going out, just make plans for yourself and I'm sure he will start asking if you want to go out together.
2006-12-01 03:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by r_finewood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either discuss boundaries, division of labor, bills, etc., or move out. i am so serious. if you think marriage to this guy is going to be any different, you are sadly mistaken my dear. you have made his life 100% better, and your life has become filled with more work. sadly, couples move in together too quickly...by this i mean before discussing what the expectations are, and as mentioned above, the boundaries, chores, etc. all is not lost however...you just need to have the discussion now and get it all out on the table. best of luck to you. i really do hope it works out.
2006-12-01 04:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by pirate00girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I's sure there is somthing else you are not telling us about. You can still do all the things you did before now. If you are truly unhappy there is no reason for you to stay with him. Figure out what the problem really is and let your boyfriend know how you feel.
2006-12-01 03:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, if you get married... things aren't going to change much. especially if you have kids. this is just part of being married. why are you miserable though about cooking and cleaning and buying groceries? you have to pull your weight in the family too.. I cook, clean, buy the groceries and we have a 6 month old daughter that i watch when i get home from my minimum of 40 hr a week job... honey... if you're not determined enough to make things interesting for him and to keep him interested then it's not going to work. You have to try to spice it up. Show him why he picked you in the first place. Make him happy and then he'll reward you back and make you happy...
2006-12-01 03:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by chica_dulce_04 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Think about what you want to do. This is an obvious sign of the future. You ever hear the saying in order to get to know somone you have to live with them?? Well there you go. I say talk to him about it and give it some more time and if things still don't improve then re-evaluate what you truly want.
2006-12-01 03:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mimy ImFurst 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. He is using you. Now you have an idea of what it would be like to be married to him. You need to talk to him and explain you are his girlfriend not his mother. He needs to step up and be part of this relationship or go on his way. I feel so bad for you. I hope he straightens up.
2006-12-01 03:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋