i am 22 weeks pregnant and for a couple months now i have been being sooo mean to my b-f telling him i hate him and that i dont want to be with him anymore...is this normal and how can i stop myself?? its really tearing us apart. But it seems i cant help myself.
2006-12-01 02:58:29 · 21 answers · asked by babylove4468 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hormone changes are completely normal :) You will be going up and down emotionally throughout your whole pregnancy, so it will be hard to control your emotions a lot of the time. You should just sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you are feeling and that you don't mean the things you say, you just can't help it sometimes with all the pregnancy hormones running through you. Just ask him to patient and understanding. Don't worry, you won't be this way forever!
2006-12-01 03:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by joencrystal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, it's your hormones. I know, I hate when people always tell me that, but it is true. I'm 29 weeks and I go up and down in moods, but when I'm angry. . I feel so sorry for anyone around me. It's hard to get a control over those raging emotions. Maybe you and your boyfriend should pick up a book about pregnancy and read up on how your hormones are changing? It might help explain it to him better so he's not as offended when you go into a "rage". Try to take some deep breaths when you feel yourself getting upset around him, maybe even leave the room and cool off. Make sure when you're not upset though that you show him how much you care about him and want to be with him, that way when you go back to being mean, he'll realize its just your mood swings. Hope this helped out, Good luck. . not too much longer to go! :)
2006-12-01 03:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Serendipity#2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly everyone agree that the hormones has something to do with your meanness during your pregnancy, however understand you are women and we do go thru hormonal things such as this. It's also sounding like your unhappy about being pregnant, so stop the meanness NOW!!. It doesn't take all of that just to prove you are women. Be happy so that the baby will be a happy, smiling little one and you should eat lots of green beans during your pregnancy that will really help. (GREEN GIANT BRAND)
2006-12-01 03:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by momview 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked basically the same question on here because I swear the only thing my boyfriend and I do is fight. Its totally normal but it will take time to pass - its also incredibly frusterating when you know that you don't mean it when you say things like you don't want to be together anymore and you know that you do.
Make sure he understands exactly what is going on with you and your body and when things calm down, go back to what the fight was originally supposed to be about and discuss it so that it is worked out - talk about what it is that sparked you to get so frusterated with him in the first place so that maybe in the future it won't be said (I know I hate it when mine is always asking "whats wrong" when I tell him I don't wnt to talk about it at the moment - once he learned to just let it go and to ask me about it later, we started to get along much much better)
Good Luck and Congratulations - and don't worry, it does get easier!
2006-12-01 03:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Redhedbeautie2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone... I told my husband on many occasions that I hated him and so forth... It is your hormones that do this... When I was pregnant one moment I was a sane and rational woman the next moment I was flying off the handle and acting like cruella deville. When your pregnant it not only changes you physically but emotionally as well.. Hopefully your boyfriend will be patient and understanding thank goodness my husband was.
2006-12-01 03:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyedredhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am on your same boat! I am 14 weeks prego and I have been having the worst fights with my hubby. i feel so bad cause I know it is my ragging hormones. i even told my doctor about it and she said it was the hormones and it should usually calm down after the second trimester. With my other 2 pregnancies I never felt this way and it concerns me. Good luck to both of us.
2006-12-01 03:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word - hormones!
I was exactly the same. I was a monster to live with through both of mine. Just tell your boyfriend it's not him, it's your body being wierd, and to hang in there. Tell him you don't mean it when you get like that.
As soon as I had my babies it was like being reborn myself! All of a sudden I didn't have all that moodiness and depression, and irritability to deal with. It will go afterwards, don't worry, just make sure your boyfriend doesn't head for the hills in the meantime!
2006-12-01 03:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by helly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hormones...and possibly some resentment at having become pregnant.
Think before you speak...even if this was unplanned, remember you were there when it happened...it was something he "did" to you...
You can help yourself, you've just got to start measuring your words and not blurting out what comes to mind because it feels good at the time...it's a tough time for you both (you especially) but you need to be sensitive to one another...he needs to not take things too personally or seriously right now...and you need to try to be a little nicer...
2006-12-01 03:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just before saying something like this, stop and think if you really want to make him (and yourself, too) upset. If your hormones still insist on saying it, go ahead and say, but then when you feel better, you should talk to him and explain what's going on. He'll understand. Just make sure you keep saying good things to him, too, when you're not in a bad mood, to balance it out!
2006-12-01 03:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by DM 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Haha! (sorry) It's Hormones, I don't think I have it as bad as you, but I constantly critisize (sp) everything my boyfriend does! Especialy his driving! He seems to be dealing with me ok, sometimes he gets mad, but I think he knows it's not really "me" talking! I try to stop and think about what I am saying before I say it, Good Luck.
2006-12-01 03:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by lindsey9180@verizon.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋