And let's say he'll be father for the first time...
2006-12-01 02:52:25 · 15 answers · asked by jokersmile 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No way! You're never too old to be a dad! As long as you're always a kid at heart.
2006-12-01 06:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am 42 now. I am already a mother of 3 children, and we have guardianship of my oldest son's girlfriend. My oldest son is 17, his girlfriend is 18, our daughter is 15, and our youngest son is 13. Our Grandson is 1 year old. My point is being 42, I am physically wore out by the time the kids get home from School. Did I mention - the 17 & 18 year old parents have this school year and next year before they graduate from High School. So I have until May of 2008 before our job is done {In more way's than one, just to see them graduate}.
All I am saying it is tough, really tough. You don't have the want too at our age's, and I can't run around and act a kid anymore because I am not.
If you are up for it, then by all mean's go far it. Your probably prepaired more than you know since it is your first child... But also be ready for the pit fall's too. Because they are many, even in the younger years raising a child.
But all in all...... It's is really up to YOU & YOUR SPOUSE. ONLY THE TWO OF YOU CAN ANSWER THAT QUESTION.
Good luck and keep everyone posted. :)
2006-12-01 12:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think it would look silly because by the time the child reaches age 10, the father will be 52, and it would look like they are grandpop and son instead of dad and son. However, recently, my husband (43) and I decided to adopt a 2 year old girl and it doesn't seem so silly anymore.
Not being bias (because he is my husband), but I now believe that looks can be decieving. What would shape a child's future is not his father's age or how they look together but how the father has instilled values, morals, principles and discipline to the child.
If you think you can still handle the stress of changing diapers and of having to wake up in the wee hours and if you think you can provide the child with a good future and solid foundation for his individual growth, then what disadvantages could else there be?
2006-12-01 18:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Infinity888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a father is no easy task no matter the age because it is the only job that doens't come with a rule book. Some things that you should keep in mind is that balance is key. Don't try to give him everything you didn't have because you might spoil him, but don't raise him the way you were raised exactly because times have changed. Try always to be a father and a friend because trust is key.
2006-12-01 12:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by confused by reality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its wrong at all! My aunt was 40 when she had her first child and her husband was only two years younger than her! The child is 18 now and in perfect health!
another example: my other aunt (a great aunt) had a kid that same age, and he's now 29! Although her husband's dead, the kid grew up normal and healthy! It's only the women, i believe that have bad eggs when they get older and reach menopause, but men make sperm (even healthy ones) all their life! Even Hugh Heffner (playboy mansion owner!) is fathering a kid now!
Also Courtney Cox gave birth in 2004! She was 40! (born 1964).
2006-12-01 16:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.
My Step Dad had his 1st kid when he was 42, and then another kid at the age of 45. I mean my lil Bro and Sis are a bit weird, but who's siblings aren't?
They aren't mentally ill or anything like that. They are perfectly healthy kids. My lil Bro is 9 and my lil Sis is 6, they learn fine, they act fine.
So nothing wrong with having a kid at the age of 40.
2006-12-01 14:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Danny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can see is that he will be considered elderly or close to it by the time the child reaches 18... or in otherwords Grandpa aged. But if he can do it why not?
2006-12-01 13:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once he is a father to the child age doesn't matter. Think of all the disfunctional excuses for parents out there. Best of luck
2006-12-01 13:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sean G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...and YES..
NO if you are capable of giving all the love and guidance a child needs...they are a gift from god and it is such a blessing to have a child of your own..
YES at 42..do you think you have the physical capabilities to keep up with your child...game playing is an important part of a child's life...
2006-12-01 12:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Valkyrie of Lor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law was all worried because my husband and I plan on having another baby next year...I'll be 37 and my husband will be 46. She saw something on the news that a lot of kids with Autism were born to men over age 40, but I think they are just grasping at straws. If you think you want kids, go for it.
2006-12-01 10:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes i do feel.
Just think of your childs future! When you will be nearly 60 he will be just in his 20's!
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2006-12-01 13:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by Dev S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋