Dont get me wrong, I love my best friend, but it drives me NUTS how she ALWAYS has to be the center of attention! If Im in a conversation with someone, she always interupts and turns the conversation back towards her. Even if the conversation has nothing to do with her. She always has some sort of drama in her life, and it wears on my nerves alot. I cant even have a conversation when she is around with out being talked over, or her changing the subject. Ive talked to her about this, and I can tell she knows when Im annoyed with her for continuing to do this....but we have been friends for a long time, and I dont want to loose her as a friend. What else can I do?
2006-12-01 02:47:33 · 11 answers · asked by soporific2u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have a friend like this.. Here is what I did to break the cycle.
When your having a conversation with someone else and she interrupts. State "Excuse me, but as you see I am having a conversation about, Please wait your turn" It should embarrass her enough to stop. If she doesn't, Simple talk over her. It should take a few times. But it will eventually work.
If she gets angry and confronts you then just be stern and let her know that its not fair what she is doing to you. If she remains angry you are going to have to truly ask yourself what kind of friend is she.
When she changes the subject on you, Ask her if for some reason what you were talking about was of no importance or bored her. Once you start putting her on the spot more she will either realize what she is doing or you will embarrass her. Either way it sometimes gets the job done.
2006-12-01 02:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this... for 10 years... I would talk to her about it each time it got too hard for me to let go... well it only helped for oh a week maybe... It go to the point where I became resentful... I just said goodbye to a sister a month ago (long story, so I'll spare you!) and my friend was worse than I could ever imagine, also being around her kept me from who and what I am and what I should be, and I couldn't have her dragging me in the mud anymore... so the friendship is gone..
I'm not telling you to break your friendship.. but I will say to watch out for yourself, and your feelings... if she continues to do this, and each time you shed light on it to her, but she still doesn't improve, then make sure you are a strong enough person to keep trudging through a one sided friendship... :) sometimes, (even though we love someone, and care so much about them) it doesn't necessarily mean they are meant to be a part of our lives forever... :)
she sounds like she needs to learn what friendship really is... and she will, but it might take longer than most... you my dear, sound like you understand how friendship works, and that is a very wonderful thing to know!
good luck... and don't be afraid to stick up for yourself!
2006-12-01 02:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe get her enrolled in a acting class and a choir class so she can put her self centerness in the spot light!!! that would be good revenge dont u think? ne way i would just try to steel the conversation back from her or say "well me and _________ were having a conversation about _____________ so could u butt out of it for a while?" thats wat i would tell her flat out and i probably just drop her like a like a o well i wouldnt be friends with her i would be like good bye i dont want to see u ne more and well if u want to take ur self centerness somewhere else that would be most helpful good bye and yes a i can be a bitc.h i kno
2006-12-01 02:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by *Living a {{ღяøM@N!Cღ}} Tragity* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice and tell her that she doesn't have to be the center of attention all the time, and that it gets on your nerves. See if anyone else feels the way you do.
:)BEST OF LUCK
2006-12-01 03:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cassie G <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by keeping some distance between you two. she will eventually get the point. ignore her when she trys get into the conservation. don't give her eye contact. if you give her attention she will take advantage of it. if you keep talking to the other person and your friend sees that no one is giving her attention she will eventually walk away.
2006-12-01 02:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem aswell. If talking to her doesnt work, show her that your not interested in what she has got to say. when she turns things to herself, say to her i dont care. this way she will eventually get the point
2006-12-01 05:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by rb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That person is not really your friend get rid of her. Its all about her. A best friend wouldnt treat you like that.
2006-12-01 03:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss it with her as to what u feel when she does a thing lik this,try to mak her understand in a calm matter,let compromise and adjustment come mutally
2006-12-01 02:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by abc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to grow up and get over herself...that the world doesnt evolve around her.
2006-12-01 03:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her dat she needs to stop inturuptin ur conversation nd to walt until ur finished!!!
2006-12-01 03:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by emmaline_tran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋