My friend needs help managing his anger. He can be upset over something small and it grows to be something big and before he realizes what he is doing he starts to get physical and violent. He needs some help and is willing to get some he just wants it to be the right kind. (Like, he doesn't need a shrink, he just needs to learn how to prevent himself from getting violent.) He was thinking about getting a punching bag, do you think this could work? Anyone with a good suggestion, your response is appreciated.
2006-12-01 02:43:18 · 15 answers · asked by babe112083 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anger Managment classes
2006-12-01 02:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Asia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a punching bag, but regular vigorous exercise works.
I have thought I was going to lose it on the kids or my wife a couple of times. I would hug them instead. Keeps your arms busy. If you are that mad at someone you love hug them instead and hold it for 10 sec. It makes everyone shut up and brings the stress level WAY down. It has always worked I have never clobbered anyone even when I thought I was going to.
I should point out that I have the advantage here of being much bigger and stronger than my wife or kids. It is sort of a forced hug. I think if hugging someone against their will is the worst thing I have done to them then I ain't so bad.
2006-12-01 02:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably something that is eating him up inside. Something he feels he needs to hide to the world. Sharing that will help him let go of his anger. We don't just get angry over little things. Stress plays a factor into it too. The punching bag may be a temporary resolution, but in the long run he needs to figure out what triggers those angry emotions.
2006-12-01 02:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by low1sk8er 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes a punching bag is a good idea it will help him get rid of some of the anger built inside him remember there is always the option of anger managment classes they are somewhat helpful you can find out more by simply searching the web....no matter what the choice is one thing is for sure he does need to get help before he hurts himself or someone else
2006-12-01 02:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well a punching bag is a well and good. However will it be available when he's out in public? I have no respect for people who can't control their emotions. From the guy who goes berserk over the smallest of things like your pal to the guy who sits in his car staring at the female clerk in the convenience store from his car and jerking off all the while.
Either he learn how to control his emotions or get a lobotomy. It'll probably save him some jail time in the longrun.
2006-12-01 02:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that obviously he has some underlying issues. He needs anger management counseling. If he is serious about getting help, sorry but going to counseling is the thing he needs. A punching bag, in and of itself, is going to do nothing more than give him stronger arms. He needs counseling in addition to other outlets for his anger.
2006-12-01 02:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does need a shrink or anger management classes. Exercising will help, it will allow him to release his stress out in the gym rather than on a person.
2006-12-01 02:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punching bag would do wonders, Karate, Tae Kwon Do, something to help him focus his anger and meditation and Yoga would be a huge bonus. A therapist would be the best route but no one can make him do something he doesn't want to do.
2006-12-01 02:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more exercise,meditation ,he need to get to the heart of whats really hurting him because this sounds like pent up anger which is hurting him inside he is suffering inside but he has to face it or he is not going to heal it's good he knows he has prob.thats a good start.
2006-12-01 03:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋