How come i want nothing to do with my family for the time being?

Question

Before you judge me, know that i love everyone in my immediate and extended family.
But i have found out that my family has lied to me so many times and everything.....and i really want nothing to do with them now.
Im from Atlanta, Georgia. Grew up poor all of my life, especially childhood. People got shot almost everyday where i grew up....My father is on drugs. My mother isnt a drug addict but she is starting to get dependant on her mediacation (methadone)
Because i feared that i would only get into trouble living in the neighborhood i did in Atlanta, i moved to New Orleans a year ago, now staying with my aunt and uncle and her spoiled 31 year old daughter who stays with them still and has 3 kids. Its very racist here.
They really dont help me either but i dont expect them to. i hunted for a job for 2 months on just a bike. Now im saving up money for college. My sister never calls (she's 33. my bro is kool though.) No one seems to really care. So why should i be around them now?

i dont know if any of you out there can relate to my life....im 19 years old (will be 20 in feb.) i want to go to college in a place away from family and have my own place. Ive been in New Orleans about a year and i bought this laptop with money i scraped up to assist me in college. I dont want live in Atlanta cause there is nothing there for me now but drugs and trouble. i will apply to colleges in florida maybe. thanks for taking the time to read this.

Answer 1

often times the ones closest to us hurt us the most, whether its done intentionally or not. if u are feeling this way there is nothing wrong with taking time out for urself. ur at a point in ur life where u have to start making decisions for urself that will affect ur future. whether the bad influences come within ur family or outside, u have to recognize them and get away from them. its good to see that u are trying to better urself. keep ur head up. u seem like a cool person that wants more for himself than what the world (or ur family) thinks u should have and thats a good thing. the fact that u were willing to ride a bike to look for a job really says a lot. keep doing u baby boy. ur blessings will come.

Answer 2

Some people today are such drama queens or kings and think that taking time to help someone else would distract them from their own problems. Going away from your family to college seems like a good idea for you, sounds like you need a break from all of them. Have you looked into financial aid, student loans, scholarships, etc. You may be able to go to college now. Whatever happens, good luck to you. Be thankful you have to do things on your own, you are learning a lot more than the average 19 year old. That sounds sh*tty or something. Best of luck!!!!

Answer 3

Honey if you knew MY family you would feel normal LOL I moved 2500 miles away 6 years ago and it has been the best thing I have ever done. You need to focus on yourself and get through college. There is nothing wrong with setting boundaries with your family. They will only appreciate down the road. Good luck and God Bless. You will get through it, just remember YOU FIRST.

Answer 4

I think you have answered your own question. And you have a lot of well thought out reasons for why you want to have nothing to do with them. Keep on going on the course you are on. Surround yourself with people who also want to succeed in life and don't feel that their success is measured in dragging you down. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

First of all even if no one else tells you i will!! Idonot ebven know you ,but i am proud that you want to do something with your life and i hope all your dreams come true .I know what it is like to struggle everyday.We grew up poor& are still struggling!! GOOD LUCK&MAY GOD BLESS YOU & MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE!!DON'T GIVE UP!!!